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excercise, drinking, eating, anger.... How do you tend to deal with stress in your life?

I was a stress eater, got fat that way. Now I'm working so hard on the weight issue while also changing careers, housing, city and all that brings stress. I'm trying to excercise daily to help, but it only helps a small amount. Any thoughts on stress?
 
Get a hobby that allows you to give your mind a break from the stress. I have a pretty nerdy hobby, but it keeps me centered.
 
do what you enjoy as often as possible, and try to not focus too much on what society tells you that you SHOULD enjoy.
 
I would like to get into sea kayaking. In Seattle there are plenty of opportunities to do that.

But, right now my hobby is board games and a living card game (netrunner).
 
i love a good bike ride, but that's often not a choice since taking three + hours out of the day is often excessive.

I've been drinking more wine, but since that's my new career, it's not quite as relaxing to read, talk and think about now. I still love it, but there is some stress in that now since it's a reminder of all I still need to learn and do.

I'm basically fine, but it would be nice if there were an eating equivalent that wasn't bad for me.

And yes, rubbing one out works too.
 
Run, bike ride, play basketball, beer & a cigar, and cuddle with Mrs HCP.
 
Everything, booze, food, exercise, is just postponing the correction. You need to figure out what causes the stress and fix it or throw it away. Replace the stressful activity (even difficult customers)
with enjoyable activity. No other way. Too much booze just leaves you with the need to learn, you don't need to do it. You have already found excess food requires the same learning.
Bad knees or whatever happens from trying to exercise stress away, will also take the same learning process.

So, might as well put the learning time in the right place right up front. Find your cause ( the real cause) of the stress and fix a fault and/or eliminate an excessive cause. It can be done.
 
MarAzul said:
Everything, booze, food, exercise, is just postponing the correction. You need to figure out what causes the stress and fix it or throw it away. Replace the stressful activity (even difficult customers)
with enjoyable activity. No other way. Too much booze just leaves you with the need to learn, you don't need to do it. You have already found excess food requires the same learning.
Bad knees or whatever happens from trying to exercise stress away, will also take the same learning process.

So, might as well put the learning time in the right place right up front. Find your cause ( the real cause) of the stress and fix a fault and/or eliminate an excessive cause. It can be done.
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The stress is normal to big life changes. I am entering a new program to change my career, which means a lot of uncertainty about my future, getting a new job, moving to a new town, and of course with all that I need to start being very frugal since my savings are limited and schooling and living costs money. Also I'm working nonstop on my weight, (89lbs lost so far) which means tons of doctors visits, excercise, dieting and buying new clothes since all my old duds don't fit.

So as you see, all the stress comes from doing good things and trying to improve, not something I really want to give up. I am just looking for better ways to manage. And I'm doing ok, just the last few days have been exceptionally hectic and stressful. But regardless of how well I deal with it, I'll end up a happier, healthier person in the long run.
 
Further said:
stress comes from doing good things
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I don't think so. A big part of managing stress is understand what causes it, often it is the need for more information or the need to learn. As long as you are making progress and understand you are making progress, then there should be no stress, but you may need to forgive yourself for being slow on the progress and allow for mind time. I like walks in the woods.
 
3RA1N1AC said:
handjobs from random hobos always seems to do the trick
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Korean massagi girls, son. Or go to hawaii. you can do it pretty cheap if you know how to hack it. Three days of chillin at the beach and wearing sandals and board shorts and not giving a fuck does wonders.
 
MarAzul said:
I like walks in the woods, candlelight dinners, and a man with a sense of humor. You have a good income, don't smoke or do drugs, and don't mind if I carry a few extra pounds.
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FTFY.
 
HAAK72 said:
Golf.
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Ha! I quit playing golf, maybe six, seven years ago. It was pissing me off (stress)! I could not improve, break 80. So one day, after a round where I thought I had a good chance to get a 7x for about 15 hole, I completed with 83 I think. I asked self, why do you care? Why the hell are you doing this stuff? You have other things to do! That was the last round. Stress gone.
 
Snowboard in the winter, coupled with lots of Counter-Strike to kill 3D terrorists. lol.

In the summer, its usually pub crawling, or camping, or softball.

I'd love to try long distance running by my body isn't built for running more than 5 miles.
 
http://naturalvitality.com/natural-calm/

You should be able to find some one use packets at certain grocery stores near you if you want to give it a try. It definitely is calming, but I don't know about its effectiveness as a long term solution.
 
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Stress is self-generated emotional state, usually created by postponing some inevitable chore or by allowing other people's opinions or expectations control your life.

As you age, and your remaining time on Earth dwindles, it gets much easier to simply laugh at people who waste time and emotions on trivial annoyances that really don't matter at all.
 
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MarAzul said:
Ha! I quit playing golf, maybe six, seven years ago. It was pissing me off (stress)! I could not improve, break 80. So one day, after a round where I thought I had a good chance to get a 7x for about 15 hole, I completed with 83 I think. I asked self, why do you care? Why the hell are you doing this stuff? You have other things to do! That was the last round. Stress gone.
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...I used to break 80 every time I played, then took a huge hiatus. Now I am content shooting in the 80's. I play for fun because I enjoy being outside on a golf course, it is very serene. Smashing the ball around also helps me unload stress (even if it goes the wrong direction)!
 
Playing Basketball, Sex with the Wife, and Eating... The last one is the dangerous one, lol.
 
Ride my bike or fix something. I've lost a huge amount of stress by not investing in the Blazers. It won't feel as great to me if they ever win but it doesn't hurt as bad when they lose.

Sorry if that makes me a turncoat, in my mind it is self preservation
 
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