OT How would you feel if wife/gf made more $ than you?

[PtldPlatypus]

OK, fess up, my informant admitted getting from Facebook and not direct hearing. So I can't verify the story. But the point holds. I have known women whose male partners told them they could only hold jobs if they made less than the men, like women need permission to work.

Remember that Master Card commercial? A straight couple are walking in the woods, the woman says her job wants her to take some big career opportunity "in Chicago". The man uses his Master Card to buy an engagement ring, offers it to her saying "please stay". As she gets all weepy, presumably the point is she decided to give up her big career opportunity and get married instead. I can't help wondering how Master Card would present the reverse situation. The man uses Master Card to buy an engagement ring, offers it to the woman saying he has a great career opportunity in Chicago, "please come with me".

If they were smart, he'd use his mastercard to buy both a ring and a pair of plane tickets to Chicago, and he'd write a note saying something like "Wherever you're going is where I need to be".

 

[crandc]

I think you may be searching for fuel to add to your hatred of conservative men. Maybe our egos aren't as large as you believe.

Dear, I don't need to search. Even when I'm not searching they throw it my way.

 

[bodyman5000 and 1]

I think you may be searching for fuel to add to your hatred of conservative men. Maybe our egos aren't as large as you believe.

Don't worry, they're winning. Watch for national run BMW commercials. They pretty much always feature professional looking handsome black guys.

Makes me jealous of black guys now. Although the one with the guy washing his car with bottled water is for certified pre-owned.

So, if I were the type to cry on Twitter I'd tweet something like "So a black guy can only afford the USED one.... that's racist"

 

[ripcityboy]

Would prefer it actually. I would be able to use the line "Okay, moneybags" when someone barks at me to turn the heat on in the morning.

 

[Stevenson]

I would love it and be proud of her.

Not the same, but similar - my sweet wife is 62 and is back in school, finally finishing up her degree. Bucket list thing. She got straight A's this semester. Love it - I would love it more if she was making six figures, but this ain't chopped liver, as we say.

We think of our little family as a corporation - we all have different roles and parts to play to make it work, but when one part of the corp. succeeds, we all do.

 

[bodyman5000 and 1]

This thread hasn't got enough options anyway.

Is the wife really ugly?

Then she HAS to make way more than me.

It even depends on the person, HCP'S wife could run a personal deficit equivalent to our 20 trillion and he'd still be lucky.

 

[Rhal]

My wifes been in school for the last 4 or so years and is currently expected to be in school for another 2. I'll be happy when she gets done if she makes more then me. Although back when our daughter was just born and she made more then me she was very resentful of that fact but i'll give her a pass on that because of the whole craziness of our daughter not sleeping her work fucking her and her being unbelievably stressed out and dealing with postpartum depression.

 

[MARIS61]

Bringing this up because a friend was waiting at an airport near a straight couple and overheard them. The woman apparently had been offered a big promotion and the man said if she loved him she would turn it down, because then everyone would know she made more money than he and it would be humiliating.

My friend wondered, is that still a thing in 2017, almost 2018?

So I'm asking the guys on the board. I'm not talking heiress; thinking if you could marry an heiress that would be great. I'm talking about a woman who works for a living in the more or less ordinary way; would you find it a problem if
1) she made more money than you, but friends/family did not know?
2) she made more money than you, and your friends/family did know?

Gracias

Your post seems defeatist in nature, as it assumes that no board member's wife makes more than him, that it's just a fantasy.

Since I got my Real Estate license at the beginning of the bust in the spring of 2007, my wife out-earned me for several years straight. Without her income I could not have switched careers.

I think it's rare nowadays for men to feel threatened by their wife earning more.

My daughter-in-law already had a son when my son married her. Then when they had a daughter my son stayed home for several years raising the kids while his wife worked.

Because you...I mean your "friend"... were eavesdropping at an airport, I'm thinking of the much more common scenario of a boss offering his female employee a big raise that is contingent on her moving to another city away from her husband, or contingent on her spending more time with her lecherous boss. Both are marriage killers and put the husband in a no-win situation. If he admits he is jealous, his wife will say he doesn't trust her or doesn't think she earned the offer. So he makes up the hurt pride story.

 

[jlprk]

My wife always made more than me. As my ex-wife, she still does. I never pursued the almighty dollar, else I wouldn't live in Bellingham. Crandc, you might like this from the 1929 UK election. I just discovered it.

 

[tlongII]

I would have to get married though. That's a deal breaker.

 

[Orion Bailey]

ohhh..


And I would ask her to keep asking for raises, so I could just stay at home.