I think I need help...

[bbwSaint Baller]

I'm having girl problemsI need some serious help...I'm not gonna post the story just yet until I know someone is willing to help and not just be an ass..Any takers?

 

[primetime]

it depends on the problem. if you got a girl pregnant your F*cked forever, not even I can help you in that situation.

 

[ElMaster]

Me and my gf just had our first fight, I feel so emo right now. She's going to a hotel this weekend tho, I'll visit her one day and it'll all be fine.

 

[Memphology]

Bring it on, im sure everybody can help out...just dont post a myspace pic saying shes your g/f...haha.

 

[bbwSaint Baller]

Well here's the deal...I've known this girl since we were little babies, no joke. Our mom's used to be best friends and still are good friends. Over the years me and this girl have become VERY close.. She's my best friend and I'm hers... I never thought I'd ever think of this girl as a girl friend but lately when she brings up things like her ex boy friends and her thinking so and so is hot I can't help but be a tad bit jealous.Now I had this friend that was very close to me and her and he used to be a really nice guy but has changed. And recently she just told me she still has feelings for him a tad bit and when she hears him or sees him her heart drops. I'm not worried about them getting together because this guy is whipped over another girl and he's an ass now and she doesn't like how he is now.Now I don't know how I feel about her. I don't want to let her know that I've became a little jealous and this and that because it might make things akward if she doesn't feel the same way. I don't want to end the relationship because I can truely say she is my only real friend that would stick with me through thick and thin. Now sometimes we talk about relationships and how she says I need to get a girlfriend and when I say I don't need a girl she says I do and just to add I just got out of a thing with a girl about a couple weeks ago where the girl used me as a F*ck buddy (long story). So when I say something like I don't know what kinda girls are my type and she'll go that last girl sure as hell wasn't your type and I ask her what girls are my kinda type and in a joking matter she says herself, I brush this off with a joke but I can't help but wonder about it...Alot of my friends think her and I have a thing going on but I don't know how she feels. I don't feel I like her as a girlfriend, but I do feel if me and her started to date we would end up together for a long time happy... Alot of my friends tell me I won't know until I try, but I'm not gonna let my friends know that I'm feeling this way because I would never hear the end of it.So I'm lost... I need help...

 

[Memphology]

Since your close, simply tell her you kindve gotten feelings for her. Just say you dont know if its cause your around her alot, your jealous or you just simply really like her. Ask her whats she feels like....I doubt this will change your relationship with her. If you grew up with her, she'll understand this. Although I question her intelligence cause it would seem pretty obvious that you like her with you saying "I dont need another girl" while talking to her. Just tell her, theres no better way to do it....and look at it like this, do you want to be around her and see her get with all these other guys while your her best friend? Take the chance...

 

[Clangus]

sounds like if you dated it would get weird...like if you kissed or something wouldn't it be like kissing your sister in a way?It was with me when I was in a similar situation and me and my girl "friend tried that - we had a date and then a goodnight kiss- but it felt like kissing a relative - that kinda killed it!

 

[primetime]

Go for it, you got nothing to lose. life is short live the moment. go all out every day. better her say she doesn't like you then never finding out ykno?

 

[Memphology]

On the real, just tell her. Ive learned its the best and most mature way. If she doesn't feel the same, atleast she knows and it cant hurt your relationship since yall are life long friends...

 

[bbwSaint Baller]

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (Clangus @ Jul 10 2007, 02:37 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}></div><div class='quotemain'>sounds like if you dated it would get weird...like if you kissed or something wouldn't it be like kissing your sister in a way?It was with me when I was in a similar situation and me and my girl "friend tried that - we had a date and then a goodnight kiss- but it felt like kissing a relative - that kinda killed it!</div>Well, I've thought about that... We are really close but it's not like family. Our mom's have been friends so I was taught up to treat her as a friend, not as family, ya know?

 

[bbwSaint Baller]

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (BluffCityBlue @ Jul 10 2007, 02:37 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}></div><div class='quotemain'>Since your close, simply tell her you kindve gotten feelings for her. Just say you dont know if its cause your around her alot, your jealous or you just simply really like her. Ask her whats she feels like....I doubt this will change your relationship with her. If you grew up with her, she'll understand this. Although I question her intelligence cause it would seem pretty obvious that you like her with you saying "I dont need another girl" while talking to her. Just tell her, theres no better way to do it....and look at it like this, do you want to be around her and see her get with all these other guys while your her best friend? Take the chance...</div>Again, I don't know how I feel. I don't know if I like her or what...She just got over her ex-boyfriend and I don't want her to start feeling weird around me like she did/does with him if we went out..Plus shes told me numerous times in the past year that she isn't ready for a relationship..

 

[Memphology]

Oh....well im out then. Ive never not known if I liked somebody, or been in that situation...

 

[bbwSaint Baller]

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (BluffCityBlue @ Jul 10 2007, 02:47 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}></div><div class='quotemain'>Oh....well im out then. Ive never not known if I liked somebody, or been in that situation...</div>Yeah that's what I've been hearing from alot of people. Thanks for your help though man, I really appreciate it.

 

[Mobruler]

One of the best lessons you'll ever learned in life is that when someone says "I'm not interested in a relationship" it means "I'm not interested in a relationship with you". You're best bet is to just forget it alltogether. I've liked and dated close friends before and it's just weird. If you're really hellbent on the idea of trying to date her though, just randomly try to drop a kiss on her one day. Might as well go for it. If you get rejected, the best way to try and get a girl who isn't interested in you to become interested in you, is to blow her off and talk to other girls.Hope that helped.

 

[bbwSaint Baller]

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (Mobruler @ Jul 10 2007, 02:47 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}></div><div class='quotemain'>One of the best lessons you'll ever learned in life is that when someone says "I'm not interested in a relationship" it means "I'm not interested in a relationship with you". You're best bet is to just forget it alltogether. I've liked and dated close friends before and it's just weird. If you're really hellbent on the idea of trying to date her though, just randomly try to drop a kiss on her one day. Might as well go for it. If you get rejected, the best way to try and get a girl who isn't interested in you to become interested in you, is to blow her off and talk to other girls.Hope that helped.</div>See with her, she really means she isn't ready for one, she doesn't only tell me, she tells other guys who try to get with her. She's a very good girl, you know? prude I guess? It's like she can't do it because shes scared it will hurt her mom because they've gone through so much since her father pasted away when she was 6 months old her brother got deported and her brother is an ass to the family she feels she can't do that to her mother.

 

[Justice]

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (Mobruler @ Jul 10 2007, 02:47 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}></div><div class='quotemain'>One of the best lessons you'll ever learned in life is that when someone says "I'm not interested in a relationship" it means "I'm not interested in a relationship with you".</div>Truth.

 

[bbwSaint Baller]

imho not in my case it isn't/

 

[Memphology]

You need to get your head straight, you "think" you need help, you "think" you like her. I "think" you need to take a day off, play some basketball, watch some summer league and just relax and think it over....

 

[Justice]

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (Saint Baller @ Jul 10 2007, 03:34 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}></div><div class='quotemain'>imho not in my case it isn't/</div>Let me put it this way. There are two possibilities:1. She really doesn't want a relationship with anybody, meaning she isn't ready.2. She knows you're interested and doesn't want to date you.The problem is that the former is only partially valid. Not ready to date. What does that really mean? I mean, if Brad Pitt came in the room and asked her hand in marriage, she would say no? If she got offered a billion dollars, she would say no? Of course I'm exaggerating, but the point is that if a girl see a guy she wants, she will be ready for a relationship. Exceptions would be if it were a guy who raped her or a boyfriend or husband that died. I'm sorry that you believe differently, but she is "telling" you she does not want a relationship, even if it is subconscious.

 

[Memphology]

Go for it though...seriously, if you have been friends all your lives then this shouldnt come between yall. Tell her you dont know if you do like her, but your jealous when shes with another guy...

 

[P.R.M.S.]

I'm going to have to agree with Mob and Justice on this one. She is saying she isn't ready for a relationship, but she also says her heart drop(or whatever) whenever she sees him. No matter how sure you are that they won't get together, if there were even the slightest possibility of them getting together she would more likely than not jump at the opportunity. In my opinion those feelings of jealousy are because you two have been close friends for quite a while and because you care a lot about her. My advice is, that if you truly value the friendship, then keep it as strictly that. If you do get into a relationship and things don't work out, that friendship will never be the same.

 

[AiRuPtHeRe]

I was actually in the same situation with you Saint Baller with my current girlfriend. In 7th grade when I first met her at my new school, we became like best friends. We chilled and did stuff together and couple weeks later we ended up going out. Don't know what to say though, just tell her how you feel about her, might work.

 

[bbwSaint Baller]

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (P.R.M.S. @ Jul 10 2007, 11:35 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}></div><div class='quotemain'>I'm going to have to agree with Mob and Justice on this one. She is saying she isn't ready for a relationship, but she also says her heart drop(or whatever) whenever she sees him. No matter how sure you are that they won't get together, if there were even the slightest possibility of them getting together she would more likely than not jump at the opportunity. In my opinion those feelings of jealousy are because you two have been close friends for quite a while and because you care a lot about her. My advice is, that if you truly value the friendship, then keep it as strictly that. If you do get into a relationship and things don't work out, that friendship will never be the same.</div>I'll say this about the other guyHe was a great friend of mine and hers both, he was always sincere and always there to listen if either of us needed help.Then his whore of a girlfriend messed up the friendship me and her had with him and he has became a cocky arrogant ***hole. She used to like him when he was a good guy, now she absolutely hates him, but she still feels the same way she used to but tells me he's to much of an ass hole to go out with anymore. Now before I've actually tried to hook her up with people and now that I feel this way I don't...

 

[junot111]

if you're REALLY good friends with her, have a friend-to-friend talkand just kinda bring up the subject a bit casually and ask hew some questions to get to know how she feels right now.if u really think she has gone through too much and isnt ready for this then just be patient.but I think it really is awkward especially if uve been friends with her your whole life

 

[DariusAli]

Im honestly still wondering why you feel "Used" by the girl who just wanted a F'ck buddy?! Should have never let her get away.

 

[MiﮒFi??]

Dude I am telling you right now having the girl of your dreams growing up with you is straight out werid I know its happend for me. Like it use to be where I had just a hardcore crush but then it got all werid when we wanted to sit with each other because everyone will look at you and smile and make you feel really werid. Like when this chick is so hot and she becones like your best friend its so werid. My mistake was I never made a move I couldn't just go crazy on her because I cared about her to much. Then she moved away and I blew my chance to tell how I really felt. I never actually asked her out but we were so close it was insane. You have to tell her how you feel dude because you never know what might happen. Reading your story I know you like this girl don't waste anytime just tell her.

 

[bbwSaint Baller]

Here's something I wanna add...I've known her for ever and have been friends with her for ever but we became best friends about a year ago.Don't know if that will help.And people already smile and make us feel weird when we are together but we just brush it off.I don't know how to casually find out how she feels about me without letting her know how I feel confused and sh*t. I still don't know if I like her and all so yeah.anybody know a way I can ask a few questions to see how she feels without letting her know all this?

 

[Memphology]

I actually have a couple of friends who everybody thought they were going out, but they were just best friends...turns out in Feburary they started dating...Go for it...

 

[7Goat]

rape her ass, and just claim you were under mad influence after. she will then feel sorry for you and try to help you, and then learn to love you kinda like beauty and the beast

 

[Mobruler]

I'm not sure that's the best strategy, 7goat. I might be wrong.