Some years ago, I attended an all day seminar in San Francisco. It was held in a downtown office tower. On the ground floor is a restaurant, Kin Khao, which, although small and by San Francisco standards moderately priced, won a coveted Michelin star and regularly appeared on list of Bay Area Top 100 restaurants. I made a lunch reservation, adding in "notes" that I would have only an hour for lunch. I read the menu on line and also reviews.
When I arrived, I told server I already knew what I wanted to order and repeated I was on time crunch. He seated me, brought glass of water, and vanished. Others who had been at seminar, many of whom had no reservation, had orders taken and food arrived while I waited. I noticed they were also asked if they wanted regular or sparkling water while I had not been. I tried saying "excuse me" when server passed but he took no notice. I finally got up out of my seat and walked right up to him to say I needed to order. I ordered and waited. Others got checks and left and I was still waiting. Finally they brought my food. It had obviously been plated some time ago and left to get cold, as food was completely cold and congealed. I ate about two bites, paid, returned to seminar late, hungry and furious. I posted scathing review on Yelp but restaurant kept Michelin star and listing on Top 100.
Any woman who ever dined or lunched solo recognizes this, "single lady phenomenon". Too many restaurants and other establishments consider solo women least important customers. Couples, groups, families with children, solo men are all served while we wait. It's not just me. One of my pre-pandemic go to places was Bluestem Brasserie. Co-owner used to travel extensively and experience single lady phenomenon so instructs her staff to pay special attention to solo women.
Why is this relevant? Because a poster who has not only on several occasions posted personal insults, he treats my community as at best a freak show for his amusement, considers random rapist ejaculate more important than a woman's life, and endorsed history only teaching good white people and happy people of color. Yet other posters keep saying he's such a nice guy. No doubt is, to them. Just like Kin Khao was great, to others. To me it sucked.
As I said, easy to be nice to people like you. Easy for restaurant to provide good service to those they consider important, which doesn't include single ladies.
Not trying to start a fight. But getting irked over hearing what a great restaurant experience it was, for others.
