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OK, I'm 41 years old and I come to realize that 25 year old is interested in dating me (I think). She is a friend, getting her Masters of Wine, and she's cute. I have never dated anyone more that a few years different then me. I really don't know if I would end up just dealing with drama or if it could be worth the trouble.

Another problem is that she is a good friend and central to the group of friends I hang out with, so if something went wrong between us, it would kill my social life.

Also, I'd honestly be a little ashamed with my old out of shape body next to her fantastic one, but I suppose I'll get over that.
 
If she's interested, and you are too, no its not too young.
 
Further said:
OK, I'm 41 years old and I come to realize that 25 year old is interested in dating me (I think). She is a friend, getting her Masters of Wine, and she's cute. I have never dated anyone more that a few years different then me. I really don't know if I would end up just dealing with drama or if it could be worth the trouble.

Another problem is that she is a good friend and central to the group of friends I hang out with, so if something went wrong between us, it would kill my social life.

Also, I'd honestly be a little ashamed with my old out of shape body next to her fantastic one, but I suppose I'll get over that.
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No.
 
Yo, look at her bush, does it got hair?

When eminem was good. Le sigh

She's not too young, but I wouldnt do it for a couple reasons. One being it's your social circle. Two being she's in your profession. Don't want to get a bad reputation if the relationship goes sour amongst your colleagues
 
JFizzleRaider said:
Yo, look at her bush, does it got hair?

When eminem was good. Le sigh

She's not too young, but I wouldnt do it for a couple reasons. One being it's your social circle. Two being she's in your profession. Don't want to get a bad reputation if the relationship goes sour amongst your colleagues
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Just do it. Most people hook up and eventually marry people within their social circle nowadays.
 
I date girls with about the same difference in age occasionally, but sometimes they can get weird, some don't care. Just need to test the waters, per say.

Today, people seem to be "growing up slower", so even though you're 41, you still probably have the same mentality as someone younger.

 
Personally my career is pretty important to me. To each their own, but I'm not trying to bang people.within my profession. Too many beautiful women outside of colleagues
 
Further said:
OK, I'm 41 years old and I come to realize that 25 year old is interested in dating me (I think). She is a friend, getting her Masters of Wine, and she's cute. I have never dated anyone more that a few years different then me. I really don't know if I would end up just dealing with drama or if it could be worth the trouble.

Another problem is that she is a good friend and central to the group of friends I hang out with, so if something went wrong between us, it would kill my social life.

Also, I'd honestly be a little ashamed with my old out of shape body next to her fantastic one, but I suppose I'll get over that.
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When in doubt...run away
 
JFizzleRaider said:
Personally my career is pretty important to me. To each their own, but I'm not trying to bang people.within my profession. Too many beautiful women outside of colleagues
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They are students together, who cares. Unless he totally fucks her over (which is probably unlikely from his post history) there's not going to be a problem unless she's mentally unstable.

Just gotta get the willy wet bro.
 
I think what I would do is introduce her to s2. We will interview her and then let you know if you should go for it or not. I don't see how this can go wrong.
 
Eh.. if you want a serious answer, I'm not too worried about the professional issue. Colleagues hook up. It happens. But, if it could ruin your social circle, that could be a concern. It makes things awkward if it ends badly or someone's feelings get hurt. But, in the end, life is short. If you think it could be fun, live in the now.
 
On a serious note...I don't recommend dating the lady for all the reasons you stated...better to keep the friend
 
riverman said:
On a serious note...I don't recommend dating the lady for all the reasons you stated...better to keep the friend
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No it isn't. That's ridiculous, you can always find new friends if something goes south. He's new to Walla Walla anyways, its not that big of a deal. Like I said, people hook up in their social circles nowaday. Girls always want to date and marry "their best friend" and all that bullshit.

Just go out and grab some drinks casually and see where it goes.
 
EL PRESIDENTE said:
No it isn't. That's ridiculous, you can always find new friends if something goes south. He's new to Walla Walla anyways, its not that big of a deal. Like I said, people hook up in their social circles nowaday. Girls always want to date and marry "their best friend" and all that bullshit.

Just go out and grab some drinks casually and see where it goes.
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he's 41 prez....he knows where it goes
 
Further said:
OK, I'm 41 years old and I come to realize that 25 year old is interested in dating me (I think). She is a friend, getting her Masters of Wine, and she's cute. I have never dated anyone more that a few years different then me. I really don't know if I would end up just dealing with drama or if it could be worth the trouble.

Another problem is that she is a good friend and central to the group of friends I hang out with, so if something went wrong between us, it would kill my social life.

Also, I'd honestly be a little ashamed with my old out of shape body next to her fantastic one, but I suppose I'll get over that.
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Ask if she wants to Netflix and Chill.
 
Walla Walla is a small town where the gossip grapevine travels faster than the speed of light. My guess is, if she is really interested in having a romantic relationship with you, she has probably hinted about it to several of your mutual friends.

I would ask your mutual female friend/s their opinion on the subject. They may already know about her level of interest in you, or can find out for you.
 
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Sinobas said:
If she is cute and in shape, and you are old and out of shape, she is probably not really interested in you romantically. Men are much more prone to mis-interpet friendliness for romantic interest.
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Debbie downer.


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EL PRESIDENTE said:
I date girls with about the same difference in age occasionally, but sometimes they can get weird, some don't care. Just need to test the waters, per say.

Today, people seem to be "growing up slower", so even though you're 41, you still probably have the same mentality as someone younger.

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I am defiantly the more immature out of the two of us.

JFizzleRaider said:
Personally my career is pretty important to me. To each their own, but I'm not trying to bang people.within my profession. Too many beautiful women outside of colleagues
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This is a big issue for me. The is a very small industry, it's ok to date, but one bad fuck up and I'd have to move to another state. Of course, she really doesn't strike me as the crazy/vindictive type, and I'm not a ass to women I date so most likely a breakup will be fine.

Natebishop3 said:
Yeah, but this is wine... maybe it's part of their profession? :devilwink:
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It is for some people and some circles, I'm still new so I'm not sure just how pervasive it is. certainly more common amongst the younger crown (she's 25).

EL PRESIDENTE said:
They are students together, who cares. Unless he totally fucks her over (which is probably unlikely from his post history) there's not going to be a problem unless she's mentally unstable.

Just gotta get the willy wet bro.
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We actually aren't students together. I am studying Enology and Viticulture, (grape growing and wine making) she is getting a Masters of Wine, which is more what sommeliers get. But she works fairly high up in a quality winery here and is friends with all my student buddies.

Sedatedfork said:
That first convo with 25 y.o.'s dad will be interesting.
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HA, that's almost reason enough to turn away now.

oldfisherman said:
Walla Walla is a small town where the gossip grapevine travels faster than the speed of light. My guess is, if she is really interested in having a romantic relationship with you, she has probably hinted about it to several of your mutual friends.

I would ask your mutual female friend/s their opinion on the subject. They may already know about her level of interest in you, or can find out for you.
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I hate that high school shit. I think she digs me, and it's fine if I'm wrong, I'll just get a nope, and that would be easy to get over as long as I'm nice and don't persist if turned down. There would be an awkward week, that's it.
 
Sinobas said:
If she is cute and in shape, and you are old and out of shape, she is probably not really interested in you romantically. Men are much more prone to mis-interpet friendliness for romantic interest.
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Very possible, but that's what I though after the first several hints, but now I'm feeling more confident. And I am not in terrible shape like I used to be. I look much better in clothes though, and that's the only way she's seen me. I've lost 100+ lbs so I have much more flab than it appears with clothes on.
 
If she's incredibly ugly....all the advice is meaningless...it's a courtesy
 
The first consultation on this board is always free to members, but this is not the first time you have come here for professional counseling.

Please PM Denny Crane and his girl will set up your account and schedule you a thread time. :smiley-doctor:
 
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