Married guys....do you still hang out with your single friends once you get married

[EL PRESIDENTE]

maybe go into the time machine for this one...when you got married, were you restricted to hang out with single friends? Just looking for some perspective here.....

Well, one of my wingmen for the last decade got married in May...I've seen him maybe twice since he got married whereas we would typically hit the town 2-3 nights per week on average before then, even when he was engaged...but once the ring was on....blammo...totally freakin' disappeared.

so....do married guys just disappear?

where do you go? Is it really Wine & Cheese parties and Parcheesi?

 

[BLAZER PROPHET]

Re: Married guys....do you still hang out with your single friends once you get marri

When my wife lets me.

 

[PtldPlatypus]

Re: Married guys....do you still hang out with your single friends once you get marri

What are these "single friends" of which you speak? Haven't had any of those in years.

However, when I got married, my best friend was single, and we still hung out all the time. My wife resented his presence, but she knew it would be unreasonable to expect me to cut him out of my life just because I was hitched.

As to your situation, you mentioned that you and your buddy "would typically hit the town 2-3 nights per week on average". Seems like an expensive lifestyle. Now that he's married, it's her money too. That might have an impact on his "disappearance."

 

[maxiep]

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Marriage didn't stop me from regularly going out with my friends (or my wife going out with hers). Having a kid is what changes the dynamic.

 

[maxiep]

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I would also make the comment that a marriage is something that needs more than two people to thrive. If it's just the two of you spending all your time together, you're going to get burned out and run out of things about which to talk. You need other friends and SOME time apart so that you can continue to have interesting things to relate to one anohter.

 

[andalusian]

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Marriage didn't stop me from regularly going out with my friends (or my wife going out with hers). Having a kid is what changes the dynamic.

Pretty much spot on. I still get together with my friends once a week for "guy's night out" - being married or single does not matter, but family life is a commitment. If you can't make the commitment, don't start a family, I suppose.

 

[Wheels]

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yes I still hang out with the single friends I have.. more so than the Best friends I had who have been married actually.

 

[tlongII]

Re: Married guys....do you still hang out with your single friends once you get marri

I'm a committed lifelong bachelor and most of my buddies are married or have been married. It definitely makes a difference in how much you hang out with them. It's unfortunate, but I understand. You just have to wait until they get divorced and then you start hanging out with them more again.

 

[Kaydow]

Re: Married guys....do you still hang out with your single friends once you get marri

maybe go into the time machine for this one...when you got married, were you restricted to hang out with single friends? Just looking for some perspective here.....

Well, one of my wingmen for the last decade got married in May...I've seen him maybe twice since he got married whereas we would typically hit the town 2-3 nights per week on average before then, even when he was engaged...but once the ring was on....blammo...totally freakin' disappeared.

so....do married guys just disappear?

where do you go? Is it really Wine & Cheese parties and Parcheesi?

Does your recently married friend's wife resent you? That could be part of the problem. Whether a wife, a bride-to-be, or a serious girlfriend, NONE of the aforementioned like their man hanging out with "Single Guy". They assume that single guy has one goal - to hook up with girls, and that he is a bad influence on their man. And if it's not that, then at the very least they think they need to compete for attention with "Single Guy". If you miss your buddy and want to see him more, you may have to find other venues than the ones you used to frequent when you "hit the town". When I hang out with the guys now - it's usually at 1) A Blazer Game, 2) Watching a Sporting Event at someone's house, or 3) Golfing or playing hoops. Another idea is (GULP), invite them BOTH to hang out. She may decline, fearing that she would appear to be the proverbial 3rd wheel, but the invitation will make her feel secure. And if she accepts, well than do yourself a favor and don't compare hanging out with "them" vs the old days when it was just you and your buddy. Another idea is for you to bring a girl - can be your girlfriend, just a friend, or family member to keep your buddy's wife occupied. It won't be like the good ole' days for you, but isn't getting to hang out with him in these types of situations better than not hanging out at all? The truth is, most married guys that "disappear" are afraid of hurting their wives feelings, making them mad, or just creating a fight. Your buddy probably misses you too.

 

[chris_in_pdx]

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Let's face it. When a guy gets married, he gets whipped. Truth. And there's nothing wrong with that, persay. A man chooses to be whipped. He likes his pussy on demand and he does what he needs to do to keep it.

 

[maxiep]

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Let's face it. When a guy gets married, he gets whipped. Truth. And there's nothing wrong with that, persay. A man chooses to be whipped. He likes his pussy on demand and he does what he needs to do to keep it.

I agree that one chooses to be whipped. Getting married doesn't automatically result in said whipped state.

 

[Wheels]

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I agree that one chooses to be whipped. Getting married doesn't automatically result in said whipped state.

this

 

[chris_in_pdx]

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I agree that one chooses to be whipped. Getting married doesn't automatically result in said whipped state.

It does with 95% of women who want their man to be 100% focused on them and their needs 24/7. And a guy knows when he puts the ring on her finger if she's a woman like that. If he can't handle that, he shouldn't marry her.

 

[maxiep]

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It does with 95% of women who want their man to be 100% focused on them and their needs 24/7. And a guy knows when he puts the ring on her finger if she's a woman like that. If he can't handle that, he shouldn't marry her.

First of all, who would marry someone like that? Second, if a guy wants to marry someone that selfish, they're looking to be whipped.

 

[OSUBlazerfan]

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It depends on the girl, my girl totally respects me and all my friends and likes hanging out with us. She has NEVER told me i cant go hang out with my friends unless they were going to like a strip club, and she understands that now that we are married, she is not gonna change.

But it goes both ways, i like her friends and have no problem letting her go hang out with them whenever. But other guys girls? forget about it.... some of these chicks are hella mean and manipuliative.

You just gotta find the right one

 

[chris_in_pdx]

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First of all, who would marry someone like that? Second, if a guy wants to marry someone that selfish, they're looking to be whipped.

Who would marry someone like that? Any number of guys. And second, you are absolutely correct, but a lot of guys are thinking with their dicks and not their brains when marrying a woman.

 

[maxiep]

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Who would marry someone like that? Any number of guys. And second, you are absolutely correct, but a lot of guys are thinking with their dicks and not their brains when marrying a woman.

It's so easy to get laid, there's no reason to get married to get some. My point is the kind of people who would marry someone like that is choosing to be whipped. It's a choice.

 

[EL PRESIDENTE]

Re: Married guys....do you still hang out with your single friends once you get marri

I'm actually fine with his wifey, get along great. i think my friend doesn't want me to hang around with them together too much though for some weird reason....worlds collide!

 

[Eastoff]

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I'm actually fine with his wifey, get along great. i think my friend doesn't want me to hang around with them together too much though for some weird reason....worlds collide!

yeah, he probably isn't an asshole around her or something like that.

 

[EL PRESIDENTE]

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yeah, i'm going to vegas with a group of peeps this weekend, one of the guys is engaged and told his fiancee only this week about the trip because he said she would say no anyways and this way its less of her nagging. she of course said no (but he's going anyways since he did already buy his tickets) and she complained that it was something "a single guy would do" (I guess leaving to go somewhere without getting approval beforehand????). anyway, he had to also lie to her about spending the money on the trip for entertainment...he apparantly justified it by saying that I was paying for everyone's drinks all weekend and rooms. weird.

 

[EL PRESIDENTE]

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yeah, he probably isn't an asshole around her or something like that.

Its totally fucking weird, he is a COMPLETELY different person around her. Totally polite, nice, etc....its fucking trippy. even some of our other friends mentioned that shit.....dual personality. even the way he talks on the phone is a trip.

 

[Eastoff]

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Its totally fucking weird, he is a COMPLETELY different person around her. Totally polite, nice, etc....its fucking trippy. even some of our other friends mentioned that shit.....dual personality. even the way he talks on the phone is a trip.

I would wager that he has/had low self esteem. Trying to fit in with you guys and acting more like an asshole and the same with her.

 

[EL PRESIDENTE]

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I would wager that he has/had low self esteem. Trying to fit in with you guys and acting more like an asshole and the same with her.

entirely possible. who knows, its just weird...i always kind of rip him about disappearing too.

 

[Eastoff]

Re: Married guys....do you still hang out with your single friends once you get marri

yeah, i'm going to vegas with a group of peeps this weekend, one of the guys is engaged and told his fiancee only this week about the trip because he said she would say no anyways and this way its less of her nagging. she of course said no (but he's going anyways since he did already buy his tickets) and she complained that it was something "a single guy would do" (I guess leaving to go somewhere without getting approval beforehand????). anyway, he had to also lie to her about spending the money on the trip for entertainment...he apparantly justified it by saying that I was paying for everyone's drinks all weekend and rooms. weird.

Well when you are getting married, you have to be more responsible financially, right? Only the elite few make money when going to vegas.

 

[OSUBlazerfan]

Re: Married guys....do you still hang out with your single friends once you get marri

yeah, i'm going to vegas with a group of peeps this weekend, one of the guys is engaged and told his fiancee only this week about the trip because he said she would say no anyways and this way its less of her nagging. she of course said no (but he's going anyways since he did already buy his tickets) and she complained that it was something "a single guy would do" (I guess leaving to go somewhere without getting approval beforehand????). anyway, he had to also lie to her about spending the money on the trip for entertainment...he apparantly justified it by saying that I was paying for everyone's drinks all weekend and rooms. weird.

What a douche

 

[THE HCP]

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Kids change the situation. If somebody already said this, sorry! Didn't have time to read whole thread, wife making me do dishes...... coming baby!

 

[chris_in_pdx]

Re: Married guys....do you still hang out with your single friends once you get marri

It all comes down to the idea of "what is love and committment?". If you are the kind of person that needs to act macho around your buddies, but you still like that available pussy that your wife/fiance/girlfriend gives willingly, you are going to make compromises, and let's be honest, your "buddies" don't give you orgasms (and if they do, I doubt anyone wants to know about it).

Personally, I think a guy that puffs up his chest and boasts that he "doesn't need his woman's permission" to do things like spur-of-the-moment trips to Vegas or nights at the strip club or just to go out to clubs or bars with his friends is full of shit. Life is all about choices and compromises, and when you commit yourself to a woman, you give her some amount of say over your actions. If that's not what you want, stay single and get all the NSA pussy you can.