The Dream
mama there goes that man!
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If you have questions about relationships or want to discuss feel free to post it in this thread....here's a blog I wrote a couple of days ago. I didn't mean everything I said in it (pick up on the sarcasm), but I did make some valid points.
<div class="quote_poster">Quote:</div><div class="quote_post">Oh boy what a week. This morning I woke up and I realized something?.life is short. The other day I had a near fatal car accident but fortunately I?m still breathing today. Anyways to get my main point?.I don?t have time to mess around. And this goes for school, my career, AND especially women. Wait a minute let me be more specific (some of ?you?ll? will hate me for this)???.especially black women.
Yes, yes, yes, I can already see the faces of my beautiful Nubian Queens scrunching up, but I?m serious. For my whole entire life I?ve been attracted to nothing (for the most part) but black women, I?ve talked to nothing but black women, I?ve dated nothing but black women, slept with nothing but black women, bought things for nothing but black women, emotionally supported nothing but black women?..I think you get the picture. But today I woke up and realized, was it really worth it?
I mean that in the sincerest of ways. The problem is with the majority of the black women that I?ve talked to, dated, etc. is that for some strange reason you like putting your significant others through an obstacle course. And that goes for everything. From the time we try to approach you to talk to you to even when we actually get to know each other, ?it?s the same ole ****.? It?s like you?ll get some type of thrill out of making my life a living hell. Well today I?m standing up and saying?.I?m sick of living in the hell hole, this brother wants a piece of heaven. It?s not funny, it?s not cute, and I don?t find it entertaining at all.
Not trying to sound arrogant but I think I am a pretty decent guy. I look good, I have a job, I go to school, I treat women with the utmost respect (won?t catch me calling females bitches or hoes?props to my moms who is a black woman on that one), and occasionally I might write a poem for you (a really good one)?.yet despite all of that it?s still ?the same ole ****.? I can?t talk to some of ?you?ll? by just approaching you, because a lot of the times you try to act funny. And by funny I mean
A. act like you?re too good (nose in the air) to talk to someone
B. seem to find the way I speak as ?talking white? just because I talk in complete sentences
C. and a lot more crap that I don?t want to get into
And that?s just the initial stage. That?s just the sprinkles on the multi-layered/heavily frosted cake better known as ?the black woman?. Because once you get that number, that?s when the reaaaaaaaaaaaaaal fun starts. Now you have to ?prove? yourself. And by ?proving? yourself I mean just that. I honestly believe that if given the proper amount of time that I can be with any female that I want. I have enough looks and personality that most females would consider attractive. But here?s the catch I don?t want to waste time doing all that. I don?t want to play games of cat and mouse when I know deep down inside that there is some attraction there, plus I have waaaaay too much pride to sit and chase after someone (I deserve better). I like honesty, but quite honestly a lot you sisters aren?t all that honest with your feelings.
I?ll give you a couple of scenarios (some will hate me for this ****, but don?t worry I still have love for you ladies). I ?was? in a relationship with one chick and it got the point where everyday it seemed like we were arguing. And the main point of these arguments was ?there was no damn point.? She was just starting them just to start them. This is universal problem with black women. I don?t know if it?s PMS, the day to day struggle that you?ll go through or what, but it always seems like there is some sort of hard shell around you to prevent me from really understanding you. It?s like you feel the need to put up this force field to protect yourself from the rest of humanity.
Currently I?m ?trying? to talk to someone, but from the looks of things right now it will probably go nowhere (like the majority of black females that I?ve talked to). I?m really trying to get to know this girl she?s very cute, smart, sweet,etc? but she?s not making it easy. I can tell by just a couple of phone conversations that I will have to resort to jumping through hoops to get this black woman?s full attention?.and the funny thing is, she knows this. I was trying to talk to another girl last year who was cute,smart,sweet, but it was the same thing. I could see that I was starting to break her down, but I didn?t have the energy to complete the process.
I almost want to go up to every black woman I approach and ask her ?hey here?s the deal, I think you?re a very attractive young lady and I?m sure we can form some sort of relationship, BUT if you?re into making a brother go through an obstacle course then you need to move around.? Better yet I?m thinking of proposing a law to congress to make all black women walk around with shirts that say ?beware of the force field that surrounds me, yeah I look good but do you really want to put up with my bullshit?? That will probably be too long to put on the front of a t-shirt, but if we can make it two sided I?m sure it could work.
What I?m trying to say is ?stop with the games black women.? Yes I?m talking to you ALL. The reason why the brothers are leaving you for Becky, Susie, Rosalinda, and Pham is not because they like long straight hair or that they have some sort of inferiority complex, it?s because of?????you and ONLY you. I love being able to relate you?ll on the same experiences, I love having conversations, I love the way you look, smell,cook (well at least most of you), move your body, etc., but quite frankly I?m tired of the bullshit. So this day April 5th 2007 will be marked as the day that I ?Jahari Kavi? will step outside the realm. This weekend I might go to a spot where the majority of the music played is Justin Timberlake (and I hate that fruit cake) and Britney Spears. Who knows while I?m at the spot I might pick up a girl who actually looks like Britney Spears (before she became an overweight slut). I might even take her out on a few dates and let her meet the parents, because black women have pushed me to my limit.
Okay, okay, okay I know the initial responses to this are ?we won?t miss your ole tired ass anyway?, or ?you?re just another one who?s selling out, don?t worry there?s plenty of men who want me???stop for just a minute and really take in what I just wrote about and ask yourself ?is he talking about me,? because chances are I am and chances are ?you? have some changing to do. I am a loving black male and I really do love my black females, but currently I?m finding it real hard to put up with your ?fun and games.? So I?m out. I?m going to hang with Tiger, Kobe, O.J. (I?ll make sure he leaves the knife at home), Cuba, and Taye Diggs?and just to let you know I?m not happy saying this, I really tried to make it work, but too much ?work? with no play is never a good thing.
Feel free to leave comments (positive or negative)
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Yeah I was sorta pissed when I wrote it, but the truth comes out sometimes when we're pissed. Just to let you know I'm not giving up on black women, I'm just growing really tired of some of their ways.
<div class="quote_poster">Quote:</div><div class="quote_post">Oh boy what a week. This morning I woke up and I realized something?.life is short. The other day I had a near fatal car accident but fortunately I?m still breathing today. Anyways to get my main point?.I don?t have time to mess around. And this goes for school, my career, AND especially women. Wait a minute let me be more specific (some of ?you?ll? will hate me for this)???.especially black women.
Yes, yes, yes, I can already see the faces of my beautiful Nubian Queens scrunching up, but I?m serious. For my whole entire life I?ve been attracted to nothing (for the most part) but black women, I?ve talked to nothing but black women, I?ve dated nothing but black women, slept with nothing but black women, bought things for nothing but black women, emotionally supported nothing but black women?..I think you get the picture. But today I woke up and realized, was it really worth it?
I mean that in the sincerest of ways. The problem is with the majority of the black women that I?ve talked to, dated, etc. is that for some strange reason you like putting your significant others through an obstacle course. And that goes for everything. From the time we try to approach you to talk to you to even when we actually get to know each other, ?it?s the same ole ****.? It?s like you?ll get some type of thrill out of making my life a living hell. Well today I?m standing up and saying?.I?m sick of living in the hell hole, this brother wants a piece of heaven. It?s not funny, it?s not cute, and I don?t find it entertaining at all.
Not trying to sound arrogant but I think I am a pretty decent guy. I look good, I have a job, I go to school, I treat women with the utmost respect (won?t catch me calling females bitches or hoes?props to my moms who is a black woman on that one), and occasionally I might write a poem for you (a really good one)?.yet despite all of that it?s still ?the same ole ****.? I can?t talk to some of ?you?ll? by just approaching you, because a lot of the times you try to act funny. And by funny I mean
A. act like you?re too good (nose in the air) to talk to someone
B. seem to find the way I speak as ?talking white? just because I talk in complete sentences
C. and a lot more crap that I don?t want to get into
And that?s just the initial stage. That?s just the sprinkles on the multi-layered/heavily frosted cake better known as ?the black woman?. Because once you get that number, that?s when the reaaaaaaaaaaaaaal fun starts. Now you have to ?prove? yourself. And by ?proving? yourself I mean just that. I honestly believe that if given the proper amount of time that I can be with any female that I want. I have enough looks and personality that most females would consider attractive. But here?s the catch I don?t want to waste time doing all that. I don?t want to play games of cat and mouse when I know deep down inside that there is some attraction there, plus I have waaaaay too much pride to sit and chase after someone (I deserve better). I like honesty, but quite honestly a lot you sisters aren?t all that honest with your feelings.
I?ll give you a couple of scenarios (some will hate me for this ****, but don?t worry I still have love for you ladies). I ?was? in a relationship with one chick and it got the point where everyday it seemed like we were arguing. And the main point of these arguments was ?there was no damn point.? She was just starting them just to start them. This is universal problem with black women. I don?t know if it?s PMS, the day to day struggle that you?ll go through or what, but it always seems like there is some sort of hard shell around you to prevent me from really understanding you. It?s like you feel the need to put up this force field to protect yourself from the rest of humanity.
Currently I?m ?trying? to talk to someone, but from the looks of things right now it will probably go nowhere (like the majority of black females that I?ve talked to). I?m really trying to get to know this girl she?s very cute, smart, sweet,etc? but she?s not making it easy. I can tell by just a couple of phone conversations that I will have to resort to jumping through hoops to get this black woman?s full attention?.and the funny thing is, she knows this. I was trying to talk to another girl last year who was cute,smart,sweet, but it was the same thing. I could see that I was starting to break her down, but I didn?t have the energy to complete the process.
I almost want to go up to every black woman I approach and ask her ?hey here?s the deal, I think you?re a very attractive young lady and I?m sure we can form some sort of relationship, BUT if you?re into making a brother go through an obstacle course then you need to move around.? Better yet I?m thinking of proposing a law to congress to make all black women walk around with shirts that say ?beware of the force field that surrounds me, yeah I look good but do you really want to put up with my bullshit?? That will probably be too long to put on the front of a t-shirt, but if we can make it two sided I?m sure it could work.
What I?m trying to say is ?stop with the games black women.? Yes I?m talking to you ALL. The reason why the brothers are leaving you for Becky, Susie, Rosalinda, and Pham is not because they like long straight hair or that they have some sort of inferiority complex, it?s because of?????you and ONLY you. I love being able to relate you?ll on the same experiences, I love having conversations, I love the way you look, smell,cook (well at least most of you), move your body, etc., but quite frankly I?m tired of the bullshit. So this day April 5th 2007 will be marked as the day that I ?Jahari Kavi? will step outside the realm. This weekend I might go to a spot where the majority of the music played is Justin Timberlake (and I hate that fruit cake) and Britney Spears. Who knows while I?m at the spot I might pick up a girl who actually looks like Britney Spears (before she became an overweight slut). I might even take her out on a few dates and let her meet the parents, because black women have pushed me to my limit.
Okay, okay, okay I know the initial responses to this are ?we won?t miss your ole tired ass anyway?, or ?you?re just another one who?s selling out, don?t worry there?s plenty of men who want me???stop for just a minute and really take in what I just wrote about and ask yourself ?is he talking about me,? because chances are I am and chances are ?you? have some changing to do. I am a loving black male and I really do love my black females, but currently I?m finding it real hard to put up with your ?fun and games.? So I?m out. I?m going to hang with Tiger, Kobe, O.J. (I?ll make sure he leaves the knife at home), Cuba, and Taye Diggs?and just to let you know I?m not happy saying this, I really tried to make it work, but too much ?work? with no play is never a good thing.
Feel free to leave comments (positive or negative)
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Yeah I was sorta pissed when I wrote it, but the truth comes out sometimes when we're pissed. Just to let you know I'm not giving up on black women, I'm just growing really tired of some of their ways.
