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My better half did not take my last name. Seems very old fashioned tradition which really does not matter to us. We gave the kids a surname that combines both our surnames in the hope that they unionize with other people that will keep the tradition - so one day we will have great grandkids with 8 surnames, because young people have it too easy and unlike us did not have to walk to school both ways, uphill, in the snow. So at least, they will have a lot of names to write in their passport application.
 
Wifey took my last name, at least on Facebook.

Too much work to do it all legally with the passports and her nursing registrations, and all that other bullshit. We'll get to it eventually, we can't be bothered with that shit now. But its facebook official.
 
Tyrant of Ants said:
Same. All 3 of our kids have both last names. I kept my mom's last name even when I came to America and was encouraged to change it to my dad's last name to avoid issues with naturalization. Seems strange with the women empowerment era that this tradition has remained largely unchanged.
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Wife's last name is "Long" and yours is "Dong"?
 
It wouldn't be a dealbreaker for me but my spouse took my last name. She liked it more than her maiden name. I prefer having the same name as our kids. Whether that means we have the same last name or a hyphenated last name. I don't know how it is now but kids 20+ years ago got made fun of at my school for having hyphenated last names. Kids are assholes.
 
My brother and his wife combined their names. My sister's daughter surprised me by taking her husband's name. She explained since her parents divorced, her name has been a bone of contention with mother calling her by her surname and father his, and she was so tired of it she decided to start fresh. Most same sex couples keep names but some combine. Pete Buttigieg's husband Chastin took his husband's name.
Niece was right to break up, he sounds like a controlling sexist.
 
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Tyrant of Ants said:
So, over the holidays my wife's niece told us that she's broken up with her long time bf. One of the reasons for their breakup is because he insisted that she take his last name if/when they're married. She's the only child and her dad is Japanese, they both don't want her last name changed.

My wife has 4 older sisters and none changed their last name (my wife included) when they got married.

Did you insist on the wife taking your last name? Frankly, I don't see what the BFD is.
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My wife's Taiwanese name and Taiwanese passport use her given name.....her American passport and ID and our marriage license uses my last name in english and hers in Mandarin...we have both versions of the marriage certificate and it had to be translated into english for her citizenship application...I have a Chinese name, ID and chop that's not the same as my english name but a name given me by my Mandarin teacher. We wouldn't have an issue either way but it's sure easier to apply for citizenship if your spouse has the same last name as you
 
EL PRESIDENTE said:
Wifey took my last name, at least on Facebook.

Too much work to do it all legally with the passports and her nursing registrations, and all that other bullshit. We'll get to it eventually, we can't be bothered with that shit now. But its facebook official.
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well, there is nothing more official than FB official. I don’t see the point in doing all the other stuff.
 
Tyrant of Ants said:
So, over the holidays my wife's niece told us that she's broken up with her long time bf. One of the reasons for their breakup is because he insisted that she take his last name if/when they're married. She's the only child and her dad is Japanese, they both don't want her last name changed.
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Are you sure that's the case? I know some Japanese elders will threaten to disown their kids if they don't marry another Japanese.
 
Tyrant of Ants said:
So, over the holidays my wife's niece told us that she's broken up with her long time bf. One of the reasons for their breakup is because he insisted that she take his last name if/when they're married. She's the only child and her dad is Japanese, they both don't want her last name changed.

My wife has 4 older sisters and none changed their last name (my wife included) when they got married.

Did you insist on the wife taking your last name? Frankly, I don't see what the BFD is.
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I asked my wife to take my last name and she did. But it would have been fine with me if she didn't want to, as in her culture that's not how it's typically done.
 
I just think it's funny how everyone is cool with traditions until it gets to the last name thing. They're good with all of the pageantry of a wedding and white dress and the engagement wring and getting on one knee and all of it...... but then we get to the last name and that one has got to go!
 
Natebishop3 said:
I just think it's funny how everyone is cool with traditions until it gets to the last name thing. They're good with all of the pageantry of a wedding and white dress and the engagement wring and getting on one knee and all of it...... but then we get to the last name and that one has got to go!
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Yeah we skipped all that crap and just did the last name... Oh, and my wife wanted a ring, so I got her one. But I don't wear one. I've known too many people who lost fingers due to wedding rings and I do too much of that kind of work.
 
I have a few friends that kept their own last names, then simply combined their last names into one joint combo name for their kids. Also have a few that agreed to both hyphenate their last names together.
 
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Seen Ken Jeong’s stand up in SoCal (at the ice house)? His wife is Tran Ho (as were a few others in the audience).
 
Natebishop3 said:
I just think it's funny how everyone is cool with traditions until it gets to the last name thing. They're good with all of the pageantry of a wedding and white dress and the engagement wring and getting on one knee and all of it...... but then we get to the last name and that one has got to go!
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Engagement wring? Sounds painful!
 
Hey if it takes a hyphenated name to get you outta your mom's basement. Go for it.
 
Tyrant of Ants said:
Better Tran Ho than My Ho (an actual Viet female name). I remembered a kid named Robert Vu that was a friend of my nephew when they were in middle school. I thought his parents must not know that Robert can also be called Bob. Bob Vu means breast grope(r) in Vietnamese (not the exact spelling, but phonetically similar).
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I knew a guy named Harry Tickler.
 
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