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Did you say to yourself, I'm getting old and I better get on this kids and family thing?
 
Got serious about kids at 32.
 
first at almost 33, 2nd at 34.

By "getting serious" it went from "having fun, and if it happens it happens" to "it hasn't happened in 5 years, so let's get medical testing done, explore other options, etc."
 
BrianFromWA said:
first at almost 33, 2nd at 34.

By "getting serious" it went from "having fun, and if it happens it happens" to "it hasn't happened in 5 years, so let's get medical testing done, explore other options, etc."
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BTDT
 
The two ideas (getting old vs. having kids and starting a family) have two different answers for me.

I haven't yet begun to feel old. I felt it was time to get married and have kids in my late 30s.
 
maxiep said:
The two ideas (getting old vs. having kids and starting a family) have two different answers for me.

I haven't yet begun to feel old. I felt it was time to get married and have kids in my late 30s.
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Is your wife a lot younger than you?
 
I have a mom who thinks its my duty to give her grandkids. I'm only 27.
 
PtldPlatypus said:
I had two kids by the time I was your age, youngster. better get on it.
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Yeah, I'm kind of a freak show at preschool. I just didn't have a lifestyle until a few years ago where it would have been responsible to have a child.
 
PtldPlatypus said:
I had two kids by the time I was your age, youngster. better get on it.
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or not. Kids are wonderful, but it's not like the world is suffering from a lack of people. Mom's personal desire for grandkids is understandable but the times they are a changin'

STOMP
 
STOMP said:
or not. Kids are wonderful, but it's not like the world is suffering from a lack of people. Mom's personal desire for grandkids is understandable but the times they are a changin'

STOMP
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I can't imagine how much anger you'd have toward your kids, let alone a wife, if they would dare not agree that you have all of the answers. Some people are meant to hike in the woods alone and argue on the internet to the point of going ALL CAPS STOMP.
 
Yet to happen and I'm 28 and in a pretty serious relationship. I guess I'm not done traveling. Dunno.
 
I kind of getting there...not yet but definitely slowing down as far as fast life goes
 
You gotta dump the cougars and go after girls in their mid 20s. These 45 year olds aren't going to pop out babies
 
I was dirt poor until I was around 29...... So that was the LAST thing on my mind. Don't rush it bro!


Sent from my baller ass iPad FAMS!
 
The culture in places like Portland or suburbs or smaller communities is to focus on getting married young because of the prevailing thought of possible mates being a finite supply. Move to a big city if u want to delay it.
 
You know, I love my little nephew to death, and the last two years that I've been back working in Memphis, I usually watch him two or more days a week. As much as I love him and will miss him when I go off to law school, it's such a bitch just watching a child part-time, that I couldn't imagine having that responsibility full-time at my age, so I know personally I'm not looking to have a kid for a while. My brother had his first at 22, but that's just how things roll down here... women go to Ole Miss and Memphis for their MRS degrees, and families start a bit earlier.

I'm a bit younger than you, Zags, but I'm still pretty close in age, and kids are not even on my radar. Maybe getting married is a little more on the radar, seeing how my whole schedule these days is figuring out how to go to my friends' weddings and whatnot... makes me wonder why the hell I haven't pulled that trigger sometimes, but if you've met some of the crazy bitches I've dated, you'd understand that one. I just got done living with this one girl in New Orleans before I moved back to Memphis, and that experience alone made me reconsider a lot of things...

Anyway, I'm not looking for either marriage or kids until I graduate law school, and I'm cool with that. If you want to go for it, go for it, but don't just jump into shit because you feel like the clock's ticking. A girl I dated in high school kept trying to get me into straight up impregnating here... she was baby crazy at 17. I got freaked out by it, stopped seeing her, and now she's a single mother of two by some older guy. You don't want to wind up in some hoodrat situation like that just because your mom was pressuring you to give her grandkids...
 
PapaG said:
I can't imagine how much anger you'd have toward your kids, let alone a wife, if they would dare not agree that you have all of the answers. Some people are meant to hike in the woods alone and argue on the internet to the point of going ALL CAPS STOMP.
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poor poor pathetic PapaG... fuck off troll

STOMP
 
Around 30. Now my 48 year old self wants to go back and kick that 30 year olds ass for wanting kids
 
PapaG said:
I can't imagine how much anger you'd have toward your kids, let alone a wife, if they would dare not agree that you have all of the answers. Some people are meant to hike in the woods alone and argue on the internet to the point of going ALL CAPS STOMP.
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This response seems a little out of whack with the answer STOMP gave, were you trying to be serious in your response or just trolling him?

Because honestly, nothing he said warranted that kind of response.

as or the for the original question, I don't know what to say about myself. I went through a phase (most of my early 20's) where I knew I was in a place where I would be doing a disservice to have kids. Didn't want them either (and it's not like the opportunity presented itself frequently).

In my late 20's, I kind of thought it was something I'd be OK with, but again, didn't exactly have the opportunity.

Recently, in my late 30's, I thought I might be close to starting an already made family with a woman I've known since I was in college, but that didn't happen (in retrospect, probably for the better. She doesn't make wise choices a lot, is divorcing for the 2nd time in 8 years).

I totally get the whole "getting too old" mindset, but dude, you're not even 30.

This thread kind of makes me feel I'm getting too old, or not in a stage in my life where kids is a possibility (btw, thanks for that), so I get you. But at the same time, in my mid 20's I kind of came to the conclusion that I needed to be OK with not having kids, and I am. And the older I get, the easier it gets to accepting it. My family name is already living on (my brother has a son), and my parents are already grandparents (5). I've also accepted that I probably wouldn't be a great father to begin with anyways.

So I'm sure I had a bigger and more poignant point originally.
 
Other way around. I decided at about 13 that I would never marry or have children. Few people if any took me seriously (apparently a person has to reach a certain age before their thoughts matter) but I knew it was true and never regretted either for a minute. (That was also the age at which I made my decision for atheism. Seems to have been a breakout year for me.)

When I was 14 a boy I knew bet me $25 I'd be married by the time I turned 25. I wasn't but we'd long since lost touch. Every time I was really hard up I wished I knew where to find him so I could collect my $25.
 
crandc said:
Other way around. I decided at about 13 that I would never marry or have children. Few people if any took me seriously (apparently a person has to reach a certain age before their thoughts matter) but I knew it was true and never regretted either for a minute. (That was also the age at which I made my decision for atheism. Seems to have been a breakout year for me.)

When I was 14 a boy I knew bet me $25 I'd be married by the time I turned 25. I wasn't but we'd long since lost touch. Every time I was really hard up I wished I knew where to find him so I could collect my $25.
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I think you're entitled to interest as well.
 
I understand you can have a very fulfilling life without kids, but having kids seems like one of the world's greatest joys. I'm not sure why anyone would choose not to partake in that experience and bond.
 
EL PRESIDENTE said:
The culture in places like Portland or suburbs or smaller communities is to focus on getting married young because of the prevailing thought of possible mates being a finite supply. Move to a big city if u want to delay it.
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That's exactly the way it is down here, i can't tell you how many people i know from high school that got married and had kids right after graduating/dropping out. I know a girl that has a kid in first grade and we're only 23!

Probably another 10-15 years for me, i can barely take care of myself, no way i could support a family.
 
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