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Before I got married, the father of an old family friend pulled me aside. He was a happy man in a long, happy marriage. He said to me,

"Steve - treat her like a queen and she will treat you like a king."

I haven't always been able to do that, but I always keep it in mind. It definitely has made a difference in my life. Married still 31 years later (but, also, I lucked out with my funny, sweet wife.)

What advice have you remembered?
 
Before I got married, the father of an old family friend pulled me aside. He was a happy man in a long, happy marriage. He said to me,

"Steve - treat her like a queen and she will treat you like a king."

I haven't always been able to do that, but I always keep it in mind. It definitely has made a difference in my life. Married still 31 years later (but, also, I lucked out with my funny, sweet wife.)

What advice have you remembered?
Conversely, I was told to never stick my Dick in crazy. I think I have mostly followed that advice. I know some guys who did not.
 
"Run!"

barfo
 
Years ago I when I was first married and desperate for a job, I had a choice between a moderate paying job with few benefits doing inside sales, or a low paying job with good benefits doing maintenance for a school district. I asked my dad which job would probably have the most upside. He told me that, now that I had responsibilities, to take the low paying job with the benefits (including retirement), as I could always make extra money on the side, but that jobs with full benefits (including retirement) were few and far between, and that there would come a time when I would be ever so grateful I had taken the benefits over the money. It was one of the rare times I was smart enough to listen to him, and it helped me get my foot in the door for the profession I spent 35 years in. My wife heeded the same advice. We never had a great deal of money but we always were able to pay the bills, had great medical care…..and were able to retire reasonably young. So thank you Dad……….
 
Especially dogs who think they’re sly.
And more especially dogs that are Sly.
"If you wish to be the king of the jungle, it's not enough to act like a king. You must be the king."
 
Don't dress for the job you have. Dress for the job you want.

Great, great advice. I've seen it work fantastically in practice.

Unfortunately I've never been able to get myself to do it...
At Boeing everyone dressed a notch above their job description.
 
Years ago I when I was first married and desperate for a job, I had a choice between a moderate paying job with few benefits doing inside sales, or a low paying job with good benefits doing maintenance for a school district. I asked my dad which job would probably have the most upside. He told me that, now that I had responsibilities, to take the low paying job with the benefits (including retirement), as I could always make extra money on the side, but that jobs with full benefits (including retirement) were few and far between, and that there would come a time when I would be ever so grateful I had taken the benefits over the money. It was one of the rare times I was smart enough to listen to him, and it helped me get my foot in the door for the profession I spent 35 years in. My wife heeded the same advice. We never had a great deal of money but we always were able to pay the bills, had great medical care…..and were able to retire reasonably young. So thank you Dad……….
Janitor for 35 years? I worked as a janitor for 35 days cleaning toilets and carpets when I was drafted into the Army where I continued the same profession but 35 years?
 
The best advice I ever got was to hang around people who worked hard and wanted to improve themselves. Also, I was taught that hard work and quality came first. Oh yeah, and my father said to stay in college and don't get distracted by girls until I graduated. There was more and all of it was good.
 
Janitor for 35 years? I worked as a janitor for 35 days cleaning toilets and carpets when I was drafted into the Army where I continued the same profession but 35 years?
Who said anything about janitor??????? Operating boilers and doing plumbing, electrical and building repairs was NOT janitorial work (though janitor is an honorable enough profession). The experience led me into the wastewater treatment profession (where I spent those 35 years). Way to jump to conclusions…….and to degrading honest work. We can’t all be born geniuses……..
 
My mother told my sister and me we should get an education so we wouldn't be dependent on husband whether or not we married. (She wrongly assumed we were both straight.) And never stay with a person who hits you.
 
Who said anything about janitor??????? Operating boilers and doing plumbing, electrical and building repairs was NOT janitorial work (though janitor is an honorable enough profession). The experience led me into the wastewater treatment profession (where I spent those 35 years). Way to jump to conclusions…….and to degrading honest work. We can’t all be born geniuses……..
I'm just pulling your chain.
 
My mother told my sister and me we should get an education so we wouldn't be dependent on husband whether or not we married. (She wrongly assumed we were both straight.) And never stay with a person who hits you.

my sister and I. ;)
 
Wrong. If you are unsure whether to use I or me in a ___ and I/me sentence, take out the other person. Did my mother tell me or did she tell I? Clearly me.
My mother was an English teacher.

I thought thats different though. I thought when referring to two people, the self is second and is I. When referring to one person did something to the self then its them against me?


My sister and i went to the beach.

is different than

My sister told me she is going to the beach.

is that not a correct distinction?
 
"It's a quick trip from the penthouse to the outhouse." An old boss told me that, but I don't remember the exact context. I think it may have been around the time the Kitzhaber scandal was going on.
 
Its not how many times you get knocked down, its how many times you get back up and keep going.

Rocky once told me this and its solid advice!
 
If you're going to be a dick, make sure you're not soft.
Try not to throw the first punch, but always be the one to land it first.
Weakness is not from losing, weakness is from quitting.

These are some of the life lessons that my uncle taught me that I'll make sure to pass on to my son.

Its not how many times you get knocked down, its how many times you get back up and keep going.

Rocky once told me this and its solid advice!

very similar and very sound.
 
Trust your gut.

Every time I've hedged my bets against my gut, I've paid.

Every time I followed my gut, I've won.
 
A wise person once told me to follow the 2.5 principle in all walks of life....if you think something takes ten minutes...it'll take 25...if you think it costs 10 dollars, it'll cost 25 dollars and always have 2.5 times the money you are about to spend still in the bank after you spend it.
 
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When I first started my career my job was demanding, it felt like such a grind and I was exhausted and grumpy all the time. One of my buddy's said to me "man, you just got to learn to enjoy your suffering." That phrase really resonated with me as I realized suffering is a person reaction to perceived pain or discomfort. You can't control the pain, but you can control the suffering because it is something you are creating.
 
Another piece of great advice my dad gave me was, after more than a few years in PERS (with all my funds in a “fixed” account while those who put some of their funds in a “variable” account were making bank in a hot market), I finally decided to try the “variable” casino. When I told my dad I had taken the leap, he actually got pissed with me. He said, “Where on earth are you going to find a guaranteed 8% return on your investment?. This market can’t last forever, you damn fool.” So first chance I got, I quit contributing to the variable account, coincidentally just as the 2008 financial fiasco hit. I looked like a genius while my coworkers took major hits to their accounts (that took years to recoup). I got off relatively scot free. My dad wasn’t educated but he was damn smart when it came to money………and I am especially grateful in retirement.
 

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