Wanted to cut out some of the chaff and isolate the wheat, because I think this part of your post really succinctly identifies the basis for the miscommunication.
The basics of the BLM movement--as I've come to understand it--is to highlight the way the police (by the black community's persception) seems to view black people and their lives as less valuable than those of white lives.
The critical connection to Chicago (and other BoB crime) is to say, "If you really want to tell us how 'Black Lives Matter', shouldn't you be more focused on where most black lives are lost?"
The BLM side sees this as an intentional deflection of attention away from what they see as power-based injustice, and says that the
quantity of deaths attributable to one source or the other isn't the issue.
Can I offer up a couple of (potentially misguided, but seemingly reasonable) analogies that might help illustrate this?
- Let's say you own a hardware store. The economy in the area takes a hit, and you have a bad quarter. Lost about $50,000 overall. Last day of the quarter, someone came in and stole a $1,000 tool, but you caught them. Do you say, "Big deal, I've lost $50K this quarter, this $1,000 theft is nothing in comparison"? No--you prosecute the thief, and separately try to address the cause of the loss.
- Let's say you're on a football team. Every day in practice, offense and defense are fighting with one another. DB's and WR's one day. OL and DL the next. Day after day. Then gameday comes around, and one of the oppositions linebackers takes a cheap shot at your quarterback. Do you say, "We fight with each other so much, that opponent's cheap shot is no big deal"? No--your whole team bum rushes the offender, because intra-squad skirmishes are much, much more acceptable than any outsider disrespecting one of your own.
When we hear the black community complaining about police violence on black people, and rather than commiserating with their concerns, we try to minimize or dismiss them by pointing to another issue which we feel
should be of greater concern to them, we're basically telling them that we know better than they do what they should be focused on, and it is going to naturally come off as incredibly condescending. Thinking about it that way, I can't blame
@dviss1--or any other black person--for being offended by being told to pay attention to black-on-black crime.