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SlyPokerDog said:
Yes, ABM and I were more acquaintances than friends. It's not like I've ever helped him move, lol. (The ultimate sign of friendship.) But we've socialized in person in the past and it was always enjoyable.

Now, while I considered ABM an acquaintance, Lanny considered him one of his close friends. We all witnessed the slow decline of Lanny's healthy. Many of you never met him in person or did just in passing at a Blazer forum event, you still reached out to him publicly and privately during the end.

In the last months of Lanny's life, ABM didn't reach out to him one time. Not by phone, email, mail, PM, nothing. And it confused and hurt Lanny. Here is ABM talking in the forum about how he's going to buy Lanny this expensive steak dinner but won't talk with Lanny. The final time Lanny was in the hospital ABM was in Portland. A 10min visit from ABM to Lanny in that fucking depressing VA hospital would have meant the world to him. He could have had that expensive steak dinner delivered to his hospital. Sent to his home. Anything.

One of the nicest people I have ever known in my life died worrying that he had somehow offended ABM.

And that's fucked up.

BTW... ABM has all this time to post hurtful BS about trans people and gay people, or ask for sympathy via PM from forum members over the "widowmaker" heart attack he had, but had no comment or condolences about Lanny's passing until 3 months after it happened.

So no, I have a hard time playing nice to someone who added to the pain of my friend.
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I had a friend ghost me like that. Although I wasn’t dying, but I was in his bridal party and we were like brothers. I had asked him to be in my bridal party but it took a few years before we finally tied the knot and he just went radio silent. Wouldn’t return calls or texts. Talked to his wife and she said he’s super busy. This is a guy who called me brother. I don’t know man. People are weird. Friends can unfortunately come and go. My sisters are both shitty people too so who can you even count on these days?
 
Natebishop3 said:
I had a friend ghost me like that. Although I wasn’t dying, but I was in his bridal party and we were like brothers. I had asked him to be in my bridal party but it took a few years before we finally tied the knot and he just went radio silent. Wouldn’t return calls or texts. Talked to his wife and she said he’s super busy. This is a guy who called me brother. I don’t know man. People are weird. Friends can unfortunately come and go. My sisters are both shitty people too so who can you even count on these days?
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As someone who has met you a few times, I would help you move.
 
I love when people post links to videos or articles that are full of shit, and it's pretty clear the person never even watched the video, or read the article.
 
Natebishop3 said:
I had a friend ghost me like that. Although I wasn’t dying, but I was in his bridal party and we were like brothers. I had asked him to be in my bridal party but it took a few years before we finally tied the knot and he just went radio silent. Wouldn’t return calls or texts. Talked to his wife and she said he’s super busy. This is a guy who called me brother. I don’t know man. People are weird. Friends can unfortunately come and go. My sisters are both shitty people too so who can you even count on these days?
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I think we've all had friends who were co-workers, or just friends from childhood, or friends who were friends, who ghosted us.

I've been "ghosted" by a few friends, and in one case I understood (her overly possessive boyfriend didn't like how we remained platonic friends since we were 11). The other, it wasn't a long term friendship, but we were close. She just stopped communicating with me, and I never found out from her why. I would message her, but nothing. I chalked it up to life happening, and didn't take it personally.

She ended up passing away suddenly a few years back, and it came as a surprise to me and everyone. She had found a new boyfriend, and they were getting close and probably just didn't have time to message me (we were completely platonic).

But if I found out that a friend of mine (I have 2 really good friends) were dying, and I was able to visit them? I would. I also would text them on a regular basis (I actually text them both of my friends on a very regular basis).

It seems weird to come off as a pious man, and then to just be like radio silent, says far more about the person, than anything they themselves can say.

But honestly, it doesn't surprise me in the least. Not only because humans by nature are sometimes weird about this stuff, but also just how some people will be a certain way when it benefits them to be a certain way (a friend of convenience).
 
julius said:
I think we've all had friends who were co-workers, or just friends from childhood, or friends who were friends, who ghosted us.

I've been "ghosted" by a few friends, and in one case I understood (her overly possessive boyfriend didn't like how we remained platonic friends since we were 11). The other, it wasn't a long term friendship, but we were close. She just stopped communicating with me, and I never found out from her why. I would message her, but nothing. I chalked it up to life happening, and didn't take it personally.

She ended up passing away suddenly a few years back, and it came as a surprise to me and everyone. She had found a new boyfriend, and they were getting close and probably just didn't have time to message me (we were completely platonic).

But if I found out that a friend of mine (I have 2 really good friends) were dying, and I was able to visit them? I would. I also would text them on a regular basis (I actually text them both of my friends on a very regular basis).

It seems weird to come off as a pious man, and then to just be like radio silent, says far more about the person, than anything they themselves can say.

But honestly, it doesn't surprise me in the least. Not only because humans by nature are sometimes weird about this stuff, but also just how some people will be a certain way when it benefits them to be a certain way (a friend of convenience).
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I’m not going to speak for ABM, but I personally have a really hard time processing death. Seeing someone you love in that state can be so hard. I had to put down my old dog and then a week later my grandpa was on his death bed. I really didn’t want to go see him because I was already emotionally broken, but I did it. It was hard to see him like that but I’m glad I went. I don’t think I could ever do an open casket funeral though.
 
Natebishop3 said:
I’m not going to speak for ABM, but I personally have a really hard time processing death. Seeing someone you love in that state can be so hard. I had to put down my old dog and then a week later my grandpa was on his death bed. I really didn’t want to go see him because I was already emotionally broken, but I did it. It was hard to see him like that but I’m glad I went. I don’t think I could ever do an open casket funeral though.
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Oh, most definitely. But that doesn't mean you can't email and says "sorry man, I haven't been good at keeping up with you. " etc.
 
SlyPokerDog said:
Yes, ABM and I were more acquaintances than friends. It's not like I've ever helped him move, lol. (The ultimate sign of friendship.) But we've socialized in person in the past and it was always enjoyable.

Now, while I considered ABM an acquaintance, Lanny considered him one of his close friends. We all witnessed the slow decline of Lanny's healthy. Many of you never met him in person or did just in passing at a Blazer forum event, you still reached out to him publicly and privately during the end.

In the last months of Lanny's life, ABM didn't reach out to him one time. Not by phone, email, mail, PM, nothing. And it confused and hurt Lanny. Here is ABM talking in the forum about how he's going to buy Lanny this expensive steak dinner but won't talk with Lanny. The final time Lanny was in the hospital ABM was in Portland. A 10min visit from ABM to Lanny in that fucking depressing VA hospital would have meant the world to him. He could have had that expensive steak dinner delivered to his hospital. Sent to his home. Anything.

One of the nicest people I have ever known in my life died worrying that he had somehow offended ABM.

And that's fucked up.

BTW... ABM has all this time to post hurtful BS about trans people and gay people, or ask for sympathy via PM from forum members over the "widowmaker" heart attack he had, but had no comment or condolences about Lanny's passing until 3 months after it happened.

So no, I have a hard time playing nice to someone who added to the pain of my friend.
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You are a forking potato. Seek the truth, pasco!
 
HomerLovesKoolAid said:
Bodyman5 put the A in A2M.
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Everything Beagle said:
Propose we rename this thread to "I'm Dealing With A Few Cisgender Issues" because frankly trans people are fine, it's the cis who are going crazy go nuts about us.
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Better yet, "we're dealing with a few ABM issues"
 
They aren't having a problem with cisgender. So changing the title would just make it incorrect.
 
Everything Beagle said:
Propose we rename this thread to "I'm Dealing With A Few Cisgender Issues" because frankly trans people are fine, it's the cis who are going crazy go nuts about us.
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Every cisgendered person should be offended, as you are literally implying that they are the only problem here. Both sides have been stubborn and pig headed on this issue. Implying that just one side is to blame, is simply wrong.
 
Road Ratt said:
Every cisgendered person should be offended, as you are literally implying that they are the only problem here. Both sides have been stubborn and pig headed on this issue. Implying that just one side is to blame, is simply wrong.
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Trans people fighting for their rights are stubborn and pig headed and share in the blame? What a stupid thing to say
 
RR7 said:
Trans people fighting for their rights are stubborn and pig headed and share in the blame? What a stupid thing to say
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Name calling isn't?

Edit: You seem to be implying that an autistic person is stupid. What does that make you?
 
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Both sides my ass. No trans person is taking away cis health care or ability to play sports or just use the toilet. Nor are trans people banning learning about cis people.
 
Road Ratt said:
Every cisgendered person should be offended, as you are literally implying that they are the only problem here. Both sides have been stubborn and pig headed on this issue. Implying that just one side is to blame, is simply wrong.
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huh?!?
 
Road Ratt said:
Every cisgendered person should be offended, as you are literally implying that they are the only problem here. Both sides have been stubborn and pig headed on this issue. Implying that just one side is to blame, is simply wrong.
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No more wrong than this post is…
Regardless of personal views, only one side is trying to cancel the other. Even me, as a conservative, can see that…
 
Road Ratt said:
Don't bother. If people don't get it. I will never be able to explain it to them.

People don't see my meaning, just their "obligated politically correct" mind set. So it is a waste to even try to explain.
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What do you think the chances are that you don't get it?
 
Road Ratt said:
Name calling isn't?

Edit: You seem to be implying that an autistic person is stupid. What does that make you?
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I said it was a stupid thing to say. I stand by that. There was no name calling in my post. I didn't call you stupid.
 
The easiest way to end transgenderism is to stop teaching pronouns in school.
 
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