Kid bullied over My Little Pony lunchbox

[BLAZER PROPHET]

I got bullied a lot less after getting into a couple of fights good enough to warrant three day suspensions.

Me too. In 5th grade I got in a fight with a guy who flunked and was pushing people around. I got in a lucky punch and flattened his nose. I mean, like my eyes were closed. Anyway, it all stopped and he started palling up to me- which I found even more disgusting.

 

[Natebishop3]

Just tell your kid to start bringing a mouth guard with him. If shit starts to go down, put the mouth guard in and kick him in the balls.

 

[BlazerCaravan]

Me too. In 5th grade I got in a fight with a guy who flunked and was pushing people around. I got in a lucky punch and flattened his nose. I mean, like my eyes were closed. Anyway, it all stopped and he started palling up to me- which I found even more disgusting.

Almost the same story for me, but it was 7th grade, and I blacked out halfway through pummeling the kid. But the palling around thing? Also happened. I wonder if his dad beat him, and that was the only way he knew to feel respect.

 

[BlazerCaravan]

Just tell your kid to start bringing a mouth guard with him. If shit starts to go down, put the mouth guard in and kick him in the balls.

My parents finally told me "Have at it, and we'll bail you out" in sixth grade. That worked. Three fights, one per new school, but I didn't get bullied much again. I wasn't considered cool (that was never gonna happen anyway), but at least I got left alone.

 

[Natebishop3]

My parents finally told me "Have at it, and we'll bail you out" in sixth grade. That worked. Three fights, one per new school, but I didn't get bullied much again. I wasn't considered cool (that was never gonna happen anyway), but at least I got left alone.

Just tell your kids to play it like Frank in House of Cards. Find out the bully's weakness and exploit it. You don't want to just embarrass them, you want to destroy them completely.

 

[Cryptkeeper]

I wish there was a way to put shock collars on bullies that go off when they bully other kids

Also, on the parents who buy boys My Little Pony lunchboxes

The parents whose son likes My Little Pony. Do you think it's wrong for them to do so?

 

[Mediocre Man]

The parents whose son likes My Little Pony. Do you think it's wrong for them to do so?

Yes, 100%.

 

[Cryptkeeper]

Yes, 100%.

What good reason would you have for not letting your kid bring an MLP lunchbox because he likes it so much?

 

[PtldPlatypus]

What good reason would you have for not letting your kid bring an MLP lunchbox because he likes it so much?

Cost-benefit analysis. The joy he might receive from having an MLP lunchbox is outweighed by the unhappiness to be generated from the likely bullying, so I would tell my child that it is not in his best interest to have what he thinks he wants.

Exception to that would be if my child were confident and self-assured enough to be able to handle the bullying in a mature manner. Few 9-year-old boys are, however.

 

[Cryptkeeper]

Cost-benefit analysis. The joy he might receive from having an MLP lunchbox is outweighed by the unhappiness to be generated from the likely bullying, so I would tell my child that it is not in his best interest to have what he thinks he wants.

Exception to that would be if my child were confident and self-assured enough to be able to handle the bullying in a mature manner. Few 9-year-old boys are, however.

I see, but he should be able to bring whatever lunchbox he wants. It's the bullies' fault for showing a negative reaction to what lunchbox he brings. Why should the child be told not to do something when he never did anything wrong?

 

[blue32]

I see, but he should be able to bring whatever lunchbox he wants. It's the bullies' fault for showing a negative reaction to what lunchbox he brings. Why should the child be told not to do something when he never did anything wrong?

Because that's not the real world.

 

[PtldPlatypus]

I see, but he should be able to bring whatever lunchbox he wants. It's the bullies' fault for showing a negative reaction to what lunchbox he brings. Why should the child be told not to do something when he never did anything wrong?

You asked why, as a parent, would I discourage my child from doing something that he wants. The answer is that every action generates a response, and it's up to every person to determine what kind of responses they want to generate by the actions they choose to take. Nothing is "wrong" with having the MLP lunchbox, but any reasonable parent knows what is likely to result. Just like nothing is "wrong" with getting a neck tattoo, but any reasonable person knows that it will likely impact future employment; or there's nothing "wrong" with a woman wearing revealing clothing, but it will probably result in her being viewed as a sexual object.

We can rail against the injustice of reality all we want, but when it comes to parenting decisions, our responsibility as parents is to prepare our children to deal with the world as it is, not just how we would like it to be. Seeking to be a change-agent is fine, as long as you're prepared for the difficulties that come along with it; it doesn't seem like this family was.

 

[Mediocre Man]

What good reason would you have for not letting your kid bring an MLP lunchbox because he likes it so much?

The good reason for me would be that I don't want my kids to be bullied.

I am lucky in the fact that my two boys are really confident and don't give a fuck.....on the exterior anyway. My 7th grade son told me a story about him skipping down the hallway. I immediately asked "why would you want to skip" His response was "why wouldn't I want to skip? Skipping is fun. Some kids, however would never do anything like that because theyd be afraid of bullies. My sone doesn't care, thus the bullies dont care. That's not reality though most of the time

 

[Natebishop3]

I see, but he should be able to bring whatever lunchbox he wants. It's the bullies' fault for showing a negative reaction to what lunchbox he brings. Why should the child be told not to do something when he never did anything wrong?

He should be able to, but he can't. Do you really think kids are ever going to stop being mean to each other? Why provoke it?

 

[Hobbesarable]

He should be able to, but he can't. Do you really think kids are ever going to stop being mean to each other? Why provoke it?

It's easier for some in this thread to blame the victim.

 

[Natebishop3]

It's easier for some in this thread to blame the victim.

Some people understand human nature, I guess.

When I was a kid, they spent millions (probably billions) on D.A.R.E. and other drug prevention programs. It didn't do jack shit. The same kids that were in my classes in elementary school were already burned out stoners by 7th or 8th grade.

If kids aren't going to listen about drugs, or diet, or anything else, what makes you think that any amount of prevention or campaign to stop bullying is going to work? People are assholes by nature. If they do not naturally mature as adults to the point where they do not pick on each other, what makes you think that children will ever stop?

If my kid came to me and said, "I want this My Little Pony lunchbox," I would tell him that he can have it but I would highly recommend not taking it to school.

"Son, there's some shit you do at home and there's some shit you do in public. This is not one of those things."

 

[Mediocre Man]

It's easier for some in this thread to blame the victim.

I dont think anyone is blaming the victim. However victims can put themselves in more harm than not.

If I go to Harlem wearing black face, then get my ass beat, I am the victim. However, I could have not done that, and not been a victim. If a girl walks into a frat party wearing stripper clothes, gets drunk and passes out there is a better chance she gets raped than had she not dressed like that and not got drunk.

It sucks, but people need to take some responsibility for themselves. I may love butterflies, but if I wear a pink shirt with butterflies all over it, there is a good chance I will get teased by co workers. So, I should choose not to do that if I dont want to be teased

 

[Hobbesarable]

I dont think anyone is blaming the victim. However victims can put themselves in more harm than not.

If I go to Harlem wearing black face, then get my ass beat, I am the victim. However, I could have not done that, and not been a victim. If a girl walks into a frat party wearing stripper clothes, gets drunk and passes out there is a better chance she gets raped than had she not dressed like that and not got drunk.

It sucks, but people need to take some responsibility for themselves. I may love butterflies, but if I wear a pink shirt with butterflies all over it, there is a good chance I will get teased by co workers. So, I should choose not to do that if I dont want to be teased

I was wondering when someone was going to escalate it that far.

It started with a school bag and it leads to a girl being raped. Wow!

 

[bodyman5000 and 1]

I see, but he should be able to bring whatever lunchbox he wants. It's the bullies' fault for showing a negative reaction to what lunchbox he brings. Why should the child be told not to do something when he never did anything wrong?

Why? So people don't think your kid is a ***...JOKE

Honestly, I think along the lines of those saying it would be better not to take it to school. However, I think I might say fuck it and let the boy take it to school.I just don't know how I would feel if he got hurt terribly by a bully. I would know my kid didn't deserve it yet I would still feel responsible.

I guess I lied, I wouldn't say fuck it and I wouldn't care if my son were gay if anyone cares.

 

[bodyman5000 and 1]

I was wondering when someone was going to escalate it that far.

It started with a school bag and it leads to a girl being raped. Wow!

Nobody on Earth equates those with this, used to make a point obviously. Now, if a hot legal aged chick got drunk by drinking booze out of a my little pony thermos.......

 

[Hobbesarable]

Nobody on Earth equates those with this, used to make a point obviously. Now, if a hot legal aged chick got drunk by drinking booze out of a my little pony thermos.......

You had me at, "Now, if a hot legal aged chick..."

 

[bodyman5000 and 1]

You had me at, "Now, if a hot legal aged chick..."

Yeah, but what kind of cereal, wait...what?

Actually I am a bit surprised kids get bullied at all with all the anti bullying stuff they do in school now. I guess some of us really are just assholes.

 

[Hobbesarable]

Yeah, but what kind of cereal, wait...what?

Actually I am a bit surprised kids get bullied at all with all the anti bullying stuff they do in school now. I guess some of us really are just assholes.

Welcome to the human race!

 

[bodyman5000 and 1]

Welcome to the human race!

I knew it already. Learned it on The Simpsons....Stampy the elephant. Duh, I mean D'Oh

 

[Hobbesarable]

I knew it already. Learned it on The Simpsons....Stampy the elephant. Duh, I mean D'Oh

Good example