Pray for my son, please.

[BenDavis503]

My son is very frustrated too. He has been in a crib with wires attached to his body for 4 days now. He is suffering in this crib. He is visibly stressed out and exhausted. At what point is making him sit in this bed for just monitoring (they aren't doing anymore tests, he does not even have an IV, cancelled his last cat scan) so they are just monitoring him. I can fucking do that at home. I called 911 when something happened. I am capable of taking care of him.

I am so fucking frustrated.

 

[Mamba]

What is something goes critically wrong? Another seizure? You're already at the hospital man. Patience man. I don't know what it is like going what you're going through right now, but I do know that he is there for a reason.

 

[bodyman5001]

I don't think they would let you take him anyway, if you did they would probably jail you. No need for that.

I hated being in the hospital recently, but those bastards know what they are doing. Some of the things they do are almost beyond comprehension to us normal folks but it is for the best.

 

[BenDavis503]

I don't think they would let you take him anyway, if you did they would probably jail you. No need for that.

I hated being in the hospital recently, but those bastards know what they are doing. Some of the things they do are almost beyond comprehension to us normal folks but it is for the best.

Nope. You are wrong. I already talked to the officer investigating this case. He said I cannot get in any sort of legal trouble for this, if I take him home.

He is fine now. They took off all the monitoring wires. He is sitting in the crib with street clothes on.

 

[BenDavis503]

I am not going anywhere. I just lost my temper for a minute. Thanks for supporting me guys.

I am not going to leave. This is just so fucking hard... I feel like crying.

 

[MAS RipCity]

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your son

Like the others, I agree, do not assume anything and would hire some form of legal consulting for your child's sake and to help out with the bills,and if joint custody is ever an option again.

Just my 2 cents...hope everything ends up well

 

[oldmangrouch]

My son is very frustrated too. He has been in a crib with wires attached to his body for 4 days now. He is suffering in this crib. He is visibly stressed out and exhausted. At what point is making him sit in this bed for just monitoring (they aren't doing anymore tests, he does not even have an IV, cancelled his last cat scan) so they are just monitoring him. I can fucking do that at home. I called 911 when something happened. I am capable of taking care of him.

I am so fucking frustrated.

I hear ya man, but remember this: your son is too young to tell the Drs how he feels, or what his symptoms are. That puts the medical people at a disadvantage (as opposed to an adult patient). They are just trying to be really careful.

 

[santeesioux]

Man, what kind of a person hits a small child like that? I hope things get better, very sorry to hear about that.

 

[bodyman5001]

Nope. You are wrong. I already talked to the officer investigating this case. He said I cannot get in any sort of legal trouble for this, if I take him home.

He is fine now. They took off all the monitoring wires. He is sitting in the crib with street clothes on.

Have you asked the doctors? IF they thought your son was at risk they could call child protective services even if you don't go to jail for anything. I wouldn't risk that. I am glad he is fine now though.

 

[BlazersBlood]

I am not going anywhere. I just lost my temper for a minute. Thanks for supporting me guys.

I am not going to leave. This is just so fucking hard... I feel like crying.

Hang in there man. The doctors know best. You are lucky they are keeping him for what may seem "longer than needed."

And bro, cry if you feel like it. Let it out. My son was in the NICU for 6 weeks and it was the most agonizing thing I've ever dealt with. I balled like a baby out of pure frustration. Don't bottle that shit up or you'll go off the deep end eventually. It's healthy to purge that shit as it builds up. Your mind will be clearer for it.

 

[maxiep]

Man, what kind of a person hits a small child like that?

That's what I'm trying to wrap my head around. I have difficulty imagining that kind of evil.

 

[Mediocre Man]

I have a friend who had her child taken away because of abuse. She was divorced and had two kids. Her ex husband had to pay $800 per month on child support that he never paid. Because of this, my friend had to work two jobs to support her family. She left the kids with a baby sitter every day for 2 hours when her or her mother, who helped her, couldn't watch them. One day the baby sitter, which hshe had used hundreds of times called to tell her the baby had fallen and hit it's head. Long story short, the baby sitter had actually hit the baby with a hair brush and killed the child. My friend had her other daughter taken away and given to the piece of shit ex husband. I mean he is the reason she had to have a sitter anyway.


The good news is that when the child turned 13 she asked the courts to place her back with her mom, and they granted it.

 

[Colonel Ronan]

My thoughts go out to your son, Dante.

 

[BenDavis503]

Hang in there man. The doctors know best. You are lucky they are keeping him for what may seem "longer than needed."

And bro, cry if you feel like it. Let it out. My son was in the NICU for 6 weeks and it was the most agonizing thing I've ever dealt with. I balled like a baby out of pure frustration. Don't bottle that shit up or you'll go off the deep end eventually. It's healthy to purge that shit as it builds up. Your mind will be clearer for it.

Thank you sir. I cried. I let it all out. A social worker came in and took a walk around the hospital with me. I just let it all go. I felt a lot better. My sister came and watched Alec for me and I went home. I ran about 5 miles this morning, took a shower and came back to my son. I feel a lot better.

I hear ya man, but remember this: your son is too young to tell the Drs how he feels, or what his symptoms are. That puts the medical people at a disadvantage (as opposed to an adult patient). They are just trying to be really careful.

You are right. Thank you sir for your kind words.

I have a friend who had her child taken away because of abuse. She was divorced and had two kids. Her ex husband had to pay $800 per month on child support that he never paid. Because of this, my friend had to work two jobs to support her family. She left the kids with a baby sitter every day for 2 hours when her or her mother, who helped her, couldn't watch them. One day the baby sitter, which hshe had used hundreds of times called to tell her the baby had fallen and hit it's head. Long story short, the baby sitter had actually hit the baby with a hair brush and killed the child. My friend had her other daughter taken away and given to the piece of shit ex husband. I mean he is the reason she had to have a sitter anyway.


The good news is that when the child turned 13 she asked the courts to place her back with her mom, and they granted it.

Oh my goodness, that is a terrible story This is why I really need to get full parenting time. I do not trust my son to be with anyone else, especially his mothers boyfriend.

My thoughts go out to your son, Dante.

Thank you sir.

--

Update, we did another XRay on his entire body to make sure we didn't miss any small fractures. Also going to do a "quick" MRI (they said it does not require sedation and it will be fast) and then they will analyze the data. I asked them not to tell me if we are being discharged until they have the paperwork in their hands ready for me to sign.

I also apologized to the doctors staff last night for losing my cool. They all comforted me and made me feel better. This is a really great hospital. Just sometimes the communication is bad. Other than that, they are really great.

 

[crandc]

Don't worry about losing your cool, Dante. Totally understandable under the circumstances. I'm so glad your son is doing better. I hope that loser who hurt him gets exactly what he deserves.

 

[BenDavis503]

Don't worry about losing your cool, Dante. Totally understandable under the circumstances. I'm so glad your son is doing better. I hope that loser who hurt him gets exactly what he deserves.

Thank you for your kind words

 

[BlazerWookee]

So even though his mother and I get along very well and are very civil, you still think I should get a lawyer?

I am 99% positive she will stay with this guy, because she doesn't think he did anything. She is blaming the day care center at her work. (Her story has changed so much with the police and DA that I am sure they know she is a liar.) I do not think they will come after me with their lawyers. The incident happened when I was 60 miles away. Everyone knows that. There is no way that I could be a suspect.

I took pictures of the bruises that I noticed on 08.28.09 and notified Police. The 'major' head injury happened on 09.03.09 - while he was with his mother and her boyfriend. I just don't see how, no matter how good the lawyer is, they could even hint that I am responsible at all. I just do not see that happening.

When my brother got his divorce, I told him to get a lawyer, and to go through proper channels with his child support. He said something very close to "no, we get along very well and are very civil." He paid child support for (IIRC) three years at an agreed-to level. Then, she lost what little she had left of her mind, and went to the state in an effort to raise the level of support. When they found out that he had been sending checks directly to her, he learned that since the payments didn't go through them, that he owed her not only the difference between what he was paying and what they felt he should pay, but also every cent he had already paid her. He produced checks, and even submitted a notarized letter from her stating that he had indeed paid what he said he paid, but it didn't do any good. Then, rather than take the money through the state and filter it back to him under the table, she instead forced him to the brink of bankruptcy so she could get a nicer car.

Long story short: Get a lawyer. Fast.

 

[BenDavis503]

When my brother got his divorce, I told him to get a lawyer, and to go through proper channels with his child support. He said something very close to "no, we get along very well and are very civil." He paid child support for (IIRC) three years at an agreed-to level. Then, she lost what little she had left of her mind, and went to the state in an effort to raise the level of support. When they found out that he had been sending checks directly to her, he learned that since the payments didn't go through them, that he owed her not only the difference between what he was paying and what they felt he should pay, but also every cent he had already paid her. He produced checks, and even submitted a notarized letter from her stating that he had indeed paid what he said he paid, but it didn't do any good. Then, rather than take the money through the state and filter it back to him under the table, she instead forced him to the brink of bankruptcy so she could get a nicer car.

Long story short: Get a lawyer. Fast.

Holy crap, when I did have to pay child support, I was paying her cash every month. So according to the courts, I haven't paid her a dime, huh?!

Good thing I got a receipt book and made her sign and date each time I gave her money. And good thing her and I get along fine too. She said she would sign the backdated termination of child support papers. She even offered to get a second job to help pay for day care for me.

And guess... what?!??!??! We get to go home tonight!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Hooray!

 

[BlazersBlood]

Congrats man! That's a good feeling getting back home after something like that. Here's hoping you and your son sleep well for a couple days before having to deal with reality.

 

[oldmangrouch]

Holy crap, when I did have to pay child support, I was paying her cash every month. So according to the courts, I haven't paid her a dime, huh?!

Good thing I got a receipt book and made her sign and date each time I gave her money. And good thing her and I get along fine too. She said she would sign the backdated termination of child support papers. She even offered to get a second job to help pay for day care for me.

And guess... what?!??!??! We get to go home tonight!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Hooray!

Glad to hear you are getting to go home! That's great news.

On the child support issue, whether you could have a problem depends on the fine print of the divorce decree. People think they have an oral agreement on how payment should be made, but many jurisdictions automatically include language in the official decree requiring payment to go through the state. When in doubt, the official decree wins!

 

[DaRizzle]

So I hate to but have to ask you Dante...Do the doctors think your son is mentally okay? Did the bleed put enough pressure on the brain to harm it? I hope and pray it didnt...

 

[BenDavis503]

So I hate to but have to ask you Dante...Do the doctors think your son is mentally okay? Did the bleed put enough pressure on the brain to harm it? I hope and pray it didnt...

They do not foresee any long term effects. I asked them if there would be any learning disabilities or anything like that. They said absolutely not. He has nothing to worry about.

It's weird too... I been teaching him new words and colors and stuff while we were in the hospital. I would estimate his vocabulary at about 45 words now. And he is only 21 months! Alecs doctor said that is normal to above normal for a 2 year old. And I just ordered the www.yourbabycanread.com (the screwed up my order 2 weeks ago, so I had to re-order) and that should be here Friday! I am going to get him started on that.

I will post videos of him reading like on that site. Freaking crazy stuff!!!

 

[SlyPokerDog]

And I just ordered the www.yourbabycanread.com (the screwed up my order 2 weeks ago, so I had to re-order) and that should be here Friday! I am going to get him started on that.

I will post videos of him reading like on that site. Freaking crazy stuff!!!

Reading is overrated, you should be looking for www.yourbabycandunk.com or www.yourbabycanbeaNFLquarterback.com .

Leave the whole teaching him to read thing to the public schools

 

[DaRizzle]

They do not foresee any long term effects. I asked them if there would be any learning disabilities or anything like that. They said absolutely not. He has nothing to worry about.

It's weird too... I been teaching him new words and colors and stuff while we were in the hospital. I would estimate his vocabulary at about 45 words now. And he is only 21 months! Alecs doctor said that is normal to above normal for a 2 year old. And I just ordered the www.yourbabycanread.com (the screwed up my order 2 weeks ago, so I had to re-order) and that should be here Friday! I am going to get him started on that.

I will post videos of him reading like on that site. Freaking crazy stuff!!!

glad to hear it

 

[BenDavis503]

Reading is overrated, you should be looking for www.yourbabycandunk.com or www.yourbabycanbeaNFLquarterback.com .

Leave the whole teaching him to read thing to the public schools

Oh I will get those too. He has athletics in his blood. He is going to be a good athlete.

 

[crandc]

Oh I will get those too. He has athletics in his blood. He is going to be a good athlete.

Glad all is well enough so you can joke, Dante.

 

[BoBoBREWSKI]

Any update?

 

[Wheels]

does Ben still post here?

 

[ABM]

does Ben still post here?

I'd say no. His last post was 03/27/2009.

 

[PapaG]

does Ben still post here?

Maybe he's in jail?

Anybody who threatens another poster like he did, and then afterward gets out of his car to scream at a homeless guy for being homeless, is probably a bit of a disaster waiting to happen. Throw in his racist rants, and it's amazing he wasn't perma-banned from S2.