Relationship Advice

[Str8 Ballin]

Aiight, this is my situation. I'm in 10th grade and just now possibly getting into my first relationship. I know it's a little late, but I've always had way too little time on my hands to go out with a girl. I work harder keepin' my grades up in school and play basketball, so I have talk to a lot of girls but have never gotten with any. Now there's this girl that I'm really getting to like and wanna go out with.I only got sixth period with her. We also have the same lunch, but I'm usually chilling with my boys and her with her girls. So my time to talk with her during the school days is limited, but we have stayed after school together and chilled, I walk her to her bus after school, and we just started talking on the phone a little bit.I think she likes me, so I think we're at the point where we could start going out. But having only one period with her, I want to get closer to her and really get her to like me before I ask her out. So, what can I do? Guys, what have you done when you're trying to get with a girl that works, and girls, what kind of things would really make you like a guy? I'm looking for any advice I can get.

 

[AiRuPtHeRe]

Anyways, just try and talk to her at lunch. Ask her if she would like to have lunch with you and hopefully your boys understand and her girls understand. Try making some time for her also and maybe go over her house.

 

[LAZY]

Bros before hoes

 

[the_pestilence]

if you don't have much time on your hands and would rather talk with your homies at lunch than hang out with her I don't know what to say to you except that most people don't get a guaranteed hour per day to hang out with a potential girlfriend (the class you have with her) so capitalize on that and ask her to hang out casually at first, like in group situations, before asking her out.

 

[gentile]

In a couple of weeks, you're gonna be firmly placed in the friend zone. You ain't gotta make the big move, but you gotta make a move.First, keep your boys out of your business, at least until you have some. They can mess sh*t up in so many ways. The best thing to do is to go up to her at lunch, after she's sat down to eat, look her dead in her face and tell the truth. Just say, "I really really like you, and I just wanted to tell you to your face." Make sure all her girls can hear you.As quickly, but disinterested as possible just nod, turn around, and go back to your boys like nothing happened. Don't give her time to say a word without talking to your back. This establishes you as bold, respectful, interested, sincere, and in control of yourself. You gotta strategize with women, especially ones worth your interest. You may never know exactly what she's thinking, but that don't mean you can't influence her perceptions. With the benefit of real interest, just take it slow, be honest, and ask her questions about her. And don't let her think that just because you like her, you're gonna sweat her. Be a dick sometimes, and put her off sometimes for your friends.

 

[P0W3RBALLIN]

Wow, this is your first post. Is this why you joined BBW? It kinda sounds like me and my ex from last year.. we didn't have ANY classes together and yeah. Didn't work out tho because her parents were too strict and we barely ever went out.I'd say to just go for it, that is if u are confident.

 

[the_pestilence]

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE </div><div class='quotemain'>First, keep your boys out of your business, at least until you have some. They can mess sh*t up in so many ways. The best thing to do is to go up to her at lunch, after she's sat down to eat, look her dead in her face and tell the truth. Just say, "I really really like you, and I just wanted to tell you to your face." Make sure all her girls can hear you.As quickly, but disinterested as possible just nod, turn around, and go back to your boys like nothing happened. Don't give her time to say a word without talking to your back. This establishes you as bold, respectful, interested, sincere, and in control of yourself.</div>I think that saying you like her and then walking away kind of ruins your chances with her at str8 ballin's age. If he thinks she likes him he should just ask her out, no ifs, ands, or buts, and if she says no then he should stay friends and hope to change her mind. To say "I really really like you" and then walk away disinterested, makes her wonder if you're insincere and doesn't give her a chance to respond positively or negatively. Knowing the girl's response is useful, because if she says she likes him too it evades weeks of "strategy", and if she responds negatively one can guage from how she responds whether she's attainable or whether at this point they should just look for other fish in the sea.

 

[The Truth]

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (P0W3RBALLIN @ Apr 9 2007, 07:03 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}></div><div class='quotemain'>Wow, this is your first post. Is this why you joined BBW?

It kinda sounds like me and my ex from last year.. we didn't have ANY classes together and yeah. Didn't work out tho because her parents were too strict and we barely ever went out.I'd say to just go for it, that is if u are confident.</div>lol funny I ask the same question twice and mods felt like its needed to delete, wow

 

[Rok]

Str8 up stupid ass topic.No one's first post on a basketball forum is about a relationship issue. I sense a One Night Stand.

 

[the_pestilence]

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (pistol @ Apr 9 2007, 04:10 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}></div><div class='quotemain'>lol funny I ask the same question twice and mods felt like its needed to delete, wow </div>lol yeah that's so random

 

[gentile]

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (tHe_pEsTiLeNcE @ Apr 9 2007, 07:09 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}></div><div class='quotemain'>I think that saying you like her and then walking away kind of ruins your chances with her at str8 ballin's age. If he thinks she likes him he should just ask her out, no ifs, ands, or buts, and if she says no then he should stay friends and hope to change her mind. To say "I really really like you" and then walk away disinterested, makes her wonder if you're insincere and doesn't give her a chance to respond positively or negatively. Knowing the girl's response is useful, because if she says she likes him too it evades weeks of "strategy", and if she responds negatively one can guage from how she responds whether she's attainable or whether at this point they should just look for other fish in the sea.</div>Nah, man. A girl don't just wanna like you, she wants to respect you. And if he says this in front of all her girls, he'll achieve both respect and create a nice public "Ahhh" moment. Let her belly bubble with anticipation before sixth hour. And if she ain't down, it won't be awkward.Strategy ain't about waiting forever. It's about setting up opportunities to advance. It's a good message: I dig you, but I won't sell my soul. We'll talk about it later.

 

[the_pestilence]

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (gentile @ Apr 9 2007, 05:18 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}></div><div class='quotemain'>A girl don't just wanna like you, she wants to respect you.</div>yes, and it'll kill her respect for you if you pull a "I really really like you but I don't have the balls to ask you out/hear the response" move. That'll make her patronize you, not like you.

 

[STAT]

Just talk to her as much as possible...at school, on the phone, etc. Get to know her really good. Then after a while, you can be like "So do you like anyone?" and then she'll be all like "Yeah heheheh" and then you can be like "Who?" and then she'll be like "You're the man. You go first." and then you go "Well, you..." and then she'll get all blushy or smiley and say back to you "I like you too..."Bam...yeah...then go out with her....

 

[BrewCityBuck]

With my relationships in the past, whenever I've been very interested in a women and it seems mutual I've always let her know before I've busted out the 'yeah you wanna be my boyfriend'....I'm kind of in a situation like your in with my friend Nikita right now, she broke up with her boyfriend 3 weeks ago and a couple days ago we were at her house watching movies and I just let it all out, letting her know how I feel about her, how special she is to me...I'm usually really mature about it. It was a great moment, I don't know what is going to happen. But I like letting it all out, gauging the situation so she knows how I feel and then we can move on from there.

 

[gentile]

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (tHe_pEsTiLeNcE @ Apr 9 2007, 09:00 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}></div><div class='quotemain'>yes, and it'll kill her respect for you if you pull a "I really really like you but I don't have the balls to ask you out/hear the response" move. That'll make her patronize you, not like you.</div>Pestilence. Do you have any game at all?

 

[Memphology]

Ask her out on a date, ask if she wants to catch a movie. If you do end up going out with her, you probably will be happy she only has one class with you.

 

[the_pestilence]

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (BrewCityBuck @ Apr 9 2007, 06:57 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}></div><div class='quotemain'>I've busted out the 'yeah you wanna be my boyfriend'</div>that's what we call a good old fashioned malapropism