Since Sly decided to bare his moderating soul to everyone, I guess I'll look heartless if I don't do so as well...
I think that there's a pretty good recognition by everyone of the things that are allowed to be posted and those that aren't. I (for one) have had very few problems with people who've had posts edited, deleted, whatever--b/c I've pm'd them and explained it and given them a chance to tell me why I'm jacked up. This place is a little more R-rated than the rest of the site, but personally I feel that the ability to be one's self in here makes this community a community. I don't drop f-bombs in public that often and might be the last person in here who hasn't slept with HCP's wife, but that doesn't mean that I can't look past those things to the point of what posters are attempting to discuss. And in a way, I think the greatness of this forum is that we've come to know each other well enough to have our own language and mores, FAMS.
My principle is that I don't want the cart upset. I'm a little less sensitive to personal insults, but more sensitive to the tensions getting ratcheted up and dragging us all down. I agree with Sly's deletion of ABM's post earlier, b/c while crandc may not be posting as much anymore, she's a valued member of the community and I think of her like the aunt that moved away and hopefully will come back for Thanksgiving with some stories (and baked goods). I think that that joke (while not ban-worthy or anything), crossed the line that would have lowered the harmony in the community and should've been edited or deleted, with an explanation sent via PM.
More than anything, I think that Sly and I attempt to be as open as possible in our heavyhanded moderation efforts. There's a need for civility, but also for expression, and that includes calling us out if you think we're treading on you. If for some reason you think that your needs are being met here, let me know. You may not get exactly what you want, but you'll get an explanation for whatever we do.
