Yes, ABM and I were more acquaintances than friends. It's not like I've ever helped him move, lol. (The ultimate sign of friendship.) But we've socialized in person in the past and it was always enjoyable.
Now, while I considered ABM an acquaintance, Lanny considered him one of his close friends. We all witnessed the slow decline of Lanny's healthy. Many of you never met him in person or did just in passing at a Blazer forum event, you still reached out to him publicly and privately during the end.
In the last months of Lanny's life, ABM didn't reach out to him one time. Not by phone, email, mail, PM, nothing. And it confused and hurt Lanny. Here is ABM talking in the forum about how he's going to buy Lanny this expensive steak dinner but won't talk with Lanny. The final time Lanny was in the hospital ABM was in Portland. A 10min visit from ABM to Lanny in that fucking depressing VA hospital would have meant the world to him. He could have had that expensive steak dinner delivered to his hospital. Sent to his home. Anything.
One of the nicest people I have ever known in my life died worrying that he had somehow offended ABM.
And that's fucked up.
BTW... ABM has all this time to post hurtful BS about trans people and gay people, or ask for sympathy via PM from forum members over the "widowmaker" heart attack he had, but had no comment or condolences about Lanny's passing until 3 months after it happened.
So no, I have a hard time playing nice to someone who added to the pain of my friend.
