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[julius]

That's exactly the way it is down here, i can't tell you how many people i know from high school that got married and had kids right after graduating/dropping out. I know a girl that has a kid in first grade and we're only 23!

Probably another 10-15 years for me, i can barely take care of myself, no way i could support a family.

I read that waaaaay too quick and thought you said "I know a girl that HAD a kid in the first grade"

 

[crandc]

I understand having children is a great joy for some people. IMHO no one should have children unless they feel that way. (The feminist slogan is "every mother a willing mother, every child a wanted child".) I honestly do not think I would be a success as a parent. I really am not a child person. Honestly. I see others cooing over babies and while I fully support social measures to help children and families the actual babies leave me unmoved. When I see a cat or kitten, OTOH, I just think "awww"! And also I did not enjoy childhood. Fuck, I hated childhood. I would not want to subject another human, especially one I cared about, to what I went through.

 

[JfizzleBlazer]

I understand having children is a great joy for some people. IMHO no one should have children unless they feel that way. (The feminist slogan is "every mother a willing mother, every child a wanted child".) I honestly do not think I would be a success as a parent. I really am not a child person. Honestly. I see others cooing over babies and while I fully support social measures to help children and families the actual babies leave me unmoved. When I see a cat or kitten, OTOH, I just think "awww"! And also I did not enjoy childhood. Fuck, I hated childhood. I would not want to subject another human, especially one I cared about, to what I went through.

Definitely understood. Guess I'm just very excited for a mini-me.

 

[Charcoal Filtered]

If you want children, I would recommend finding someone you want to marry first. That should take awhile as a good percentage of marriages end in divorce. Then as a couple you can decide when it is best time or if you even want to have them.

I think there is no right/wrong answer for when to have kids. For me, having them later allowed us to not have to worry about money and all of our decisions are based on what is best for the kids. We also got to see the world while still young. For my friends that had them younger, they had more energy to keep up with the kids and get to enjoy grandkids without being too old.

 

[julius]

If you want children, I would recommend finding someone you want to marry first. That should take awhile as a good percentage of marriages end in divorce. Then as a couple you can decide when it is best time or if you even want to have them.

Very good point. A friend of mine had a kid to try to keep her marriage together. She ended up wising up and leaving the idiot but she now is a single parent of a daughter. Granted, her daughter is everything to her and she wouldn't change things, but having kids is serious business. If you're not sure, don't.

 

[BLAZINGGIANTS]

I had two kids by the time I was your age, youngster. better get on it.

Samesies.

 

[EL PRESIDENTE]

Why? Cougars are so much fun.

Yeah. .. but having kids and getting married is a sign your basically done with fun.

hoop fam

 

[JfizzleBlazer]

Yeah. .. but having kids and getting married is a sign your basically done with fun.

hoop fam

Depends what someone finds fun.

I used to go to the club's, Vegas, bars etc a ton from 21-26. Now I'm all kinds of tired of that lifestyle and am looking forward to having fun being married, going on family trips, having kids etc

 

[EL PRESIDENTE]

Ready for some sick wine and cheese parties bro? Play dates!

 

[Charcoal Filtered]

A friend of mine had a kid to try to keep her marriage together.

I have never heard anyone say children saved their marriage, but plenty that have said kids help end it. I think strong relationships can be enhanced with kids while shaky ones are put to the test.

 

[jlprk]

Arithmetic solves this question.

A woman can count on being fertile up to her early 30s. So you need to meet her when she's 30.

The man wants a maximum age difference, so he can tolerate her immaturity. Add your desired age difference to 30, and you have your own deadline.

For me the desired age difference is 50. So I'll start looking when I hit the big 8-oh. I better start crackin'.

 

[BLAZINGGIANTS]

I find it funny when people who aren't married (or haven't been married) and have no kids think they know what it's like and make their quips.

Hands down, I enjoy life more now than at 22. And I probably party now than I did at 22. Of course, I do far less dumb shit too.

 

[EL PRESIDENTE]

I find it funny when people who aren't married (or haven't been married) and have no kids think they know what it's like and make their quips.

Hands down, I enjoy life more now than at 22. And I probably party now than I did at 22. Of course, I do far less dumb shit too.

Teh ghey.

 

[Charcoal Filtered]

Ready for some sick wine and cheese parties bro? Play dates!

I miss the weekends when it requires little planning to head to the coast and not worry about anything. Different sort of happy when teaching my kid how to read finally clicks.

 

[EL PRESIDENTE]

Arithmetic solves this question.

A woman can count on being fertile up to her early 30s. So you need to meet her when she's 30.

The man wants a maximum age difference, so he can tolerate her immaturity. Add your desired age difference to 30, and you have your own deadline.

For me the desired age difference is 50. So I'll start looking when I hit the big 8-oh. I better start crackin'.

You'll need two kids so 27 is probable optimal so you have to target 25 year olds in your late 30s/early 40s. If you're going to wifey up. . you need to balance out her being out of her dirty slut phrase and maximize the time before she hits "the wall"

hoop fam

 

[EL PRESIDENTE]

I'm on my phone in a waiting room but insert the tap out kid at his computer here.

 

[EL PRESIDENTE]

I miss the weekends when it requires little planning to head to the coast and not worry about anything. Different sort of happy when teaching my kid how to read finally clicks.

"Head to the coast"? Fuck that man. .. more like travel the world and bang 20 year old European girls. :tapout:

hoop fam

 

[BLAZINGGIANTS]

Teh ghey.

Yes. Yes you are.

If doing dumb shit = fun, then I rarely have fun anymore. But I still get to party and have fun (as I see it). I have fun with my kids too (and they're bright, responsible, well-adjusted, even at their young ages).

I also have a lot of things I didn't have at 22 that perhaps help make things more fun.

 

[BLAZINGGIANTS]

"Head to the coast"? Fuck that man. .. more like travel the world and bang 20 year old European girls. :tapout:

hoop fam

Congrats to you if you never good bored with that and good luck that it can continue forever. When I was younger, I thought some of that stuff would last forever and I wanted it to then. Sadly, I got older and bored.

 

[EL PRESIDENTE]

Yes. Yes you are.

If doing dumb shit = fun, then I rarely have fun anymore. But I still get to party and have fun (as I see it). I have fun with my kids too (and they're bright, responsible, well-adjusted, even at their young ages).

I also have a lot of things I didn't have at 22 that perhaps help make things more fun.

Yeah because at 22 you were probably making shit money. Imagine if you were making mad money now and were single... you'd be able to do whatever you want. 30s are 2 awesome to be single because you make more money and still young enough to do awesome stuff.

hoop fam

 

[EL PRESIDENTE]

 

[EL PRESIDENTE]

Congrats to you if you never good bored with that and good luck that it can continue forever. When I was younger, I thought some of that stuff would last forever and I wanted it to then. Sadly, I got older and bored.

Hey.. not saying do it forever but don't waste your 20s doing stuff like starting a family and getting married when you can do it later and have more money, stability, maturity and life experience

hoop fam

 

[BLAZINGGIANTS]

Yeah because at 22 you were probably making shit money. Imagine if you were making mad money now and were single... you'd be able to do whatever you want. 30s are 2 awesome to be single because you make more money and still young enough to do awesome stuff.

hoop fam

I dunno. I wore out of a lot of things. Girls... Hard partying... I still travel a lot. I still party a lot. I have great kids and a great wife. Our house is 5600 square feet, and we have a second house at the coast. I'm still only 31. I dunno. I have the things I want in life, and I have things that I am grateful for and appreciate. I don't think I'd have these things if I were always traveling and partying - they'd all be a few years away (especially the things that cost money). I'd take what I have over the alternative.

I can understand why some people enjoy being single in their 30's. Just not for me.

 

[EL PRESIDENTE]

Travel and partying is a lot less of a waste of time and money versus a wife and kids. That shit is expensive and time consuming. With travel you can turn it on and off and focus on work. With a family.... not so much

hoop fam

 

[BLAZINGGIANTS]

Travel and partying is a lot less of a waste of time and money versus a wife and kids. That shit is expensive and time consuming. With travel you can turn it on and off and focus on work. With a family.... not so much

hoop fam

You're killing me Smalls. You're one of the brighter ones on the board.

But it's odd hearing your take on this, when you've only experienced one side.

 

[EL PRESIDENTE]

You're killing me Smalls. You're one of the brighter ones on the board.

But it's odd hearing your take on this, when you've only experienced one side.

I'm not saying you shouldn't have kids or settle down. .. just don't see the need to do so in your 20s when you can do so much more.

hoop fam

 

[EL PRESIDENTE]

It seems the prevailing theme to settle down is "I'm bored". Kind of a lame excuse to do something like that. . As if you are submitting at life.

hoop fam

 

[THE HCP]

Being a parent is tough as shit, but very rewarding. Not to get all cheesy, but seeing my 12 year old son hit a pull-up jumper the other night at his summer league game and having my 8 year old daughter read me a book on the porch last night makes me happier than you could ever imagine. Once you have kids, puts a whole new spin in everything.


Sent from HCPs Baller-Ass iPhone 5...FAMS!

 

[EL PRESIDENTE]

Blowing my load in girls 15 years younger than me is rewarding as well.

 

[PtldPlatypus]

I'm not saying you shouldn't have kids or settle down. .. just don't see the need to do so in your 20s when you can do so much more.

And why can't I do all that same stuff when I'm in my 40s, my kids are grown, I make more money, and I'm mature and experienced enough to actually appreciate it in a way I wouldn't have been able to in my 20s?