How Do You Know If Your In Love?

[iversonfan268]

Well the title pretty much explains itself. How do you know if your truly in love or not. I just wanna know because for the first time ever I think I might be truly in love with someone. I know love is an incredibly strong word especially since I'm only 14 and I'm not even dating her but I just can't help but feel like what I'm feeling is more than just a huge crush.and yeah I do feel like a loser asking this on a message board

 

[Memphology]

I dont think many people here can tell you....I know I cant cause ive never been in love. I have heard that love at first site is true...but I dunno

 

[AiRuPtHeRe]

Where's Tony at?

 

[DTP]

Your probably not in love, just in a really strong like.

 

[ASUFan22]

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (DTP @ Jun 19 2007, 07:12 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}></div><div class='quotemain'>Your probably not in love, just in a really strong like.</div>Yeah, there's a really low chance that you'd actually be in love with someone at 14. Of course I wouldn't know.

 

[Memphology]

Wait, your 14? No, your not in love...atleast if you are it wont be like that very long...

 

[The Truth]

14 - 8th grade right ... Yeah easily can be in loveI mean if she doesn't like you back or arent really dating then I dont think its love in 8th grade though best girl ive ever been with deff know it was love still had feelings for her ofcourse for over a year after that wish we still were together

 

[iversonfan268]

Yeah I know it's pretty rare especially when your not even dating the person. I'll do my best to describe everything. Alright so there's the obvious things like she's constantly on my mind, when I'm around her I feel like one of the happiest guys in the world, other than friends and family she's all I really care about anymore, she's more important to me than my own life, etc. But there's more to it than that. One of the main things that makes this different than any other crush I've ever had is she actually has every single personality trait and physical attribute I look for in a girl(and I'm pretty picky btw). Another thing is for the first time ever just being around her is good enough for me. Just talking or hanging out with her satisfies me enough. Like I know if I do start going out with her, she won't be comfortable going past 1st or 2nd base in High School because she's the goody goody type with good morals but I'm ok with that. Just as long as I'm around her I don't care what I'm doing with her. Another thing is all of a sudden no others girl other than her really appeal to me anymore. Now that I've found a girl that has everything I look for, I don't even have the slightest interest in anyone else.Like if I got to choose between her and Jessica Alba I would choose her. I feel like there's a lot more I have to say but a lot of it I just don't know how to describe in the right way to be honest.BTW The Truth I'm 14 but I'll be 15 in less than 2 months and I'm going into 10th grade lol...

 

[DTP]

I hate when people say you "can't" be in love just because you're young or whatever, I was in love at young age. Its not likely but just because someone is 14 doesn't mean they're not in love. I just find it quite unlikely that he is.

 

[the_pestilence]

Love is intangible, and you can only use your own definition of it. My opinion is that love is large doses of primal lust, friendship, and lots of rationalization, so by that measure you can be in love at any point once you've reached puberty. You also can fall out of love. Is a feeling that is fleeting and simply caused by an overactive hypothalamus and amygdala any less valid than a long lingering sense of duty and societal constraint that people generally think of love as being? I think that due to love's intangibility, you, and only you, have the right to say whether or not you're in love with somebody.

 

[Memphology]

The reason why I dont think he can be in love at 14 is because you cant really know the ins and outs of a person unless you are constantly with them, you date them, you go everywhere with them, you know every single detail about this person and vice versa....and im sorry, but I cant believe a 14 year old has been with somebody like that. I was in a serious relationship for a year and a half and not once did I feel I knew the person enought to know if I loved her or not. Thats just me though...buts its difficult for me to say a 14 year has fallen...

 

[Rok]

I think 14 year olds can be in love. Look at some couples who've been with each other since they were kids. It's not a out of reach.

 

[Memphology]

They most likely grew into love....I remember my Studen Council teacher(Ms Sparks) she married her best friend(who was her best friend sinve they were children...she said) and she said she didnt fall in love with him until they got older...I dunno, its just my opinion...come back in 5 years and we'll see if you still "love" the chick...

 

[Rok]

I didn't respond to the topic, so here goes. Do you know the girl iversonfan? Or is this just from a glance. Like are you actually friends with this chick or is this some obsession(remembers iversonfans American Psycho pics).

 

[STAT]

I think he can be. I mean I am 15 and I am. It's actually with my girlfriend though so...it's a bit different

 

[Justice]

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (Rok @ Jun 19 2007, 11:29 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}></div><div class='quotemain'>I think 14 year olds can be in love. Look at some couples who've been with each other since they were kids. It's not a out of reach.</div>Name 5-10 people that you know who have been in love since 14 (besides those who are like, <18 y/o).

 

[ASUFan22]

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (iversonfan268 @ Jun 19 2007, 08:47 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}></div><div class='quotemain'>Yeah I know it's pretty rare especially when your not even dating the person. I'll do my best to describe everything. Alright so there's the obvious things like she's constantly on my mind, when I'm around her I feel like one of the happiest guys in the world, other than friends and family she's all I really care about anymore, she's more important to me than my own life, etc. But there's more to it than that. One of the main things that makes this different than any other crush I've ever had is she actually has every single personality trait and physical attribute I look for in a girl(and I'm pretty picky btw). Another thing is for the first time ever just being around her is good enough for me. Just talking or hanging out with her satisfies me enough. Like I know if I do start going out with her, she won't be comfortable going past 1st or 2nd base in High School because she's the goody goody type with good morals but I'm ok with that. Just as long as I'm around her I don't care what I'm doing with her. Another thing is all of a sudden no others girl other than her really appeal to me anymore. Now that I've found a girl that has everything I look for, I don't even have the slightest interest in anyone else.Like if I got to choose between her and Jessica Alba I would choose her. I feel like there's a lot more I have to say but a lot of it I just don't know how to describe in the right way to be honest.BTW The Truth I'm 14 but I'll be 15 in less than 2 months and I'm going into 10th grade lol...</div>I had the same feelings and then I realized I was totally wrong. You need to get to know go out with her and get to know her first before saying you love her.

 

[BuLLzDoMaIn]

awww puppy lovebut you'll know... like you want to spend every second with her. you will do anything for her.. and really do it not just say it..when u can be on the phone 4 hours sayin nothing but yet love every second...things like that..

 

[Rok]

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE </div><div class='quotemain'>Name 5-10 people that you know who have been in love since 14 (besides those who are like, <18 y/o).</div>CORY AND TOPANGA! Honestly, I don't know anyone in my surroundings but I think certain termed high school sweethearts would fit the range.

 

[Memphology]

You said it, highschool sweathearts....which means they dated through highschool..which its the years when you ARE able to be with somebody basicly 24/7, cause you are able to drive on your own, you go out more etc. You cant do these things when your 14...

 

[Justice]

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (Rok @ Jun 20 2007, 12:56 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}></div><div class='quotemain'>CORY AND TOPANGA! Honestly, I don't know anyone in my surroundings but I think certain termed high school sweethearts would fit the range.</div>I can think of very few people like that. My point is that most people get married in their early to mid-twenties. True love rarely works before that age because people change so much in their 20's.

 

[Mobruler]

To be in love is to care about someone more than you care about yourself. At 14 years old I don't even think you really know yourself yet. I think a person has alot of growing up to do and alot of maturing to do until they can really love someone who isn't family.You are probably just overwhelmed by the fact that you are mutually attracted (are you?) by someone of the opposite sex for one of the first times in your life. Just have a good time and enjoy your company with her instead of badgering yourself about if you're in love.

 

[ElMaster]

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (STAT @ Jun 20 2007, 01:17 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}></div><div class='quotemain'>I think he can be. I mean I am 15 and I am. It's actually with my girlfriend though so...it's a bit different</div>Same here, I've only been with my gf for 2 months but I've felt things I've never felt before with her, I'm thinking about her 24/7, etc. It sucks that we almost don't see each other during the summer but that'll all change when in Nov. when I get my license. Actually, I haven't seen her in 2 weeks but we're going to a AA game this Friday and the movies this Sunday...and next weekend I'm going to a hotel and she's coming over for a day.

 

[Memphology]

Its not love, you arent around her 24/7, you dont know all her flaws, you dont know what type of decisions she would make in certain situations, you might like her...ALOT..but its not love unless you know absolutely everything about her. The reason why im pushing this is because ive been in a long relationship where I and her liked each other alot...I would do anything for her. But as I got more and more closer to her, and we had been in certain situations as a couple, I knew I didnt and owuld never love her.

 

[Justice]

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (BluffCityBlue @ Jun 20 2007, 03:29 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}></div><div class='quotemain'>Its not love, you arent around her 24/7, you dont know all her flaws, you dont know what type of decisions she would make in certain situations, you might like her...ALOT..but its not love unless you know absolutely everything about her.</div>If that were true, the Newlyweds would never have been a game show. Then again, a lot of people get divorced.

 

[Memphology]

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (Justice @ Jun 20 2007, 03:33 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}></div><div class='quotemain'>If that were true, the Newlyweds would never have been a game show. Then again, a lot of people get divorced.</div>haha, I didnt mean know everything in the sense of "hey Brittany, do you know what my favorite ice cream is?"....but more of how a person would react if your mother want to move in with you and your girl...haha.

 

[Chris]

I've felt what you're feeling before. You just really like being around this girl and she makes you really happy. I've had the feeling and I think you just like the girl a lot. if you end up dating her I'm sure there's a chance you could be in love, but I can't see it being with someone you're not with. Just my opinion.

 

[Pacers fan forever]

IversonFan, you are in loveThe people in this thread are only debating the degree of love, but there's no doubt that you are in love, no matter what degree of love it is. If I were you I'd be with her as much as you could, go ahead and be with her and love her, you never forget your first love

 

[AiRuPtHeRe]

Yeah at the age of 14, you can be in love. I've been with my girl since the beginning of 7th grade and I'm still going out with and you could say I'm in love with her. Iversonfan, why don't you ask her out?

 

[Pronk48]

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (iversonfan268 @ Jun 19 2007, 09:31 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}></div><div class='quotemain'>Well the title pretty much explains itself. How do you know if your truly in love or not. I just wanna know because for the first time ever I think I might be truly in love with someone. I know love is an incredibly strong word especially since I'm only 14 and I'm not even dating her but I just can't help but feel like what I'm feeling is more than just a huge crush.and yeah I do feel like a loser asking this on a message board

</div>I thought I was in love with a girl when I was that age, but it's not love