Facebook: Do you add people or just wait for them to add you?

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I don't post much on Facebook much now because the mix of real friends, family, people I know at work... people I once knew etc... got weird. I know I could group em, but it doesn't seem to be worth the effort. A few people I lost contact with did find me on Facebook and that was cool.
 
I don't post much on Facebook much now because the mix of real friends, family, people I know at work... people I once knew etc... got weird. I know I could group em, but it doesn't seem to be worth the effort. A few people I lost contact with did find me on Facebook and that was cool.

It is worth the hour or so it takes. It really isn't that hard. I have a group called "these people don't get my info" just so I know who they are ;]
 
I have two Facebook accounts.

One that is for work and is entirely public. I don't have many friends there... a couple dozen or so, I think, but I am friends with my coworkers and bosses and clients/potential clients.

My personal one is relatively locked down. I try to keep it hidden from searches, etc., which means if someone searches for me they SHOULD get my work account. Which is fine; going from work to personal is easy.

I have gone through stretches where I'd add people to Facebook. Girls, primarily, that I'd meet out and about or through other girls. Lately, I've done less of that. For a variety of reasons.

In fact, I've gone through an austerity period, trimming my Facebook friends list repeatedly, nearly halving it from ~300 to ~170. I tend to keep:

1. Family (my siblings, cousins, parents, grandmothers, etc.)
2. Friends in real life
3. People I interact with regularly on Facebook or elsewhere
4. Attractive women that are communicative and/or active on Facebook (chatting and/or posting pics)

Also I have a few Blazers fans sprinkled in for good measure...

Finally: when someone friend requests me that I'm not interested in, I just let it sit there. I don't ignore it because then they might re-request me... or they'll notice that I actively denied them. Better to let it linger and hope they forget about me (or at least that I will have the "I never check for friend requests!" excuses if I need to use it in real life.)

Ed O.
 
Unless I was or am a good friend with them, I don't. I take that back, I have become friends with a few people on here.

I feel so honored.. you added me HCP! or should i say John!

I never really add people. People find out how much of a dick I am that way (right John?)
 
Finally: when someone friend requests me that I'm not interested in, I just let it sit there. I don't ignore it because then they might re-request me... or they'll notice that I actively denied them. Better to let it linger and hope they forget about me (or at least that I will have the "I never check for friend requests!" excuses if I need to use it in real life.)

Ed O.
When you do this, you show up in their feed and they can see when you add other people. I have had a few people do it to me over the years, and I saw them adding other people in my feed, while I was still pending. At that point, I would just un-request them.
 
When you do this, you show up in their feed and they can see when you add other people. I have had a few people do it to me over the years, and I saw them adding other people in my feed, while I was still pending. At that point, I would just un-request them.

Thanks for the heads-up. It's weird that by merely friend requesting, you get access to at least part of their feed.

Ed O.
 
Thanks for the heads-up. It's weird that by merely friend requesting, you get access to at least part of their feed.

Ed O.

Yep, it's something that needs to be corrected by facebook. They should allow you the option to comfortably ignore somebody without going through the trouble of all-out blocking them.
 

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