Exclusive How many dates until sex

[MickZagger]

I was taking this girl out for dates every weekend, she's a wholesome kinda-christiany girl I guess, but not sure if I wanted to get super serious with her without experiencing whats under the hood if you know what I mean. 5 dates and every time afterwards there would be these lame makeout sessions, but no knocking of the boots. She would always let it be known as soon as I would make a move that "you know were not having sex yet". I realize some of you are married, but for those who are not (or even married guys if you want to chip in, if you aren't too far out of touch). I think I'm done with this chick. I'm a 31 year old man, I'm not into taking you out to fine establishments and wine and dining you, only for these junior high make out sessions. So I'm like, next.....At this point I'm convinced she's a virgin.

Is this unreasonable of me? Am I being a prick for this line of thinking? I understand not every chick you're just going to bag on the first night, in fact I'm not even really into the town spunk bucket types.

How many dates until you can expect to get past like say, first fucking base?

 

[HomerLovesKoolAid]

Dates?

 

[EL PRESIDENTE]

I usually have the same M.O. every time.

1. First date is drinks on a weekday around 9pm at a chill lounge or kind of hipster bar. I'll try to go for a kiss at the end of the night.

2. Second date is a daytime beach date (usually day drinking at certain beach bars), where I try to get her back to my place to make out a little more or go further than that. I usually premise it by having them park at my place and we uber over since parking is hard at the beach.

3. Third date if I didn't close on the first one, I'll do a dinner on a Friday or Saturday then back to my place, that usually seals the deal. If not, just keep on repeating within reason.

Then the Slow Fade.

 

[BrianFromWA]

If she's "kind of christiany", probably doesn't matter if 5 or 50. Especially if she is a virgin (or even if not, but waiting to do it again until marriage).
If that's not what you're looking for, I'd say that she may not be the one to spend your energy and money on. There are likely a lot of others who will give you what you're looking for for a steak and lobster.

 

[MickZagger]

I usually have the same M.O. every time.

1. First date is drinks on a weekday around 9pm at a chill lounge or kind of hipster bar. I'll try to go for a kiss at the end of the night.

2. Second date is a daytime beach date (usually day drinking at certain beach bars), where I try to get her back to my place to make out a little more or go further than that. I usually premise it by having them park at my place and we uber over since parking is hard at the beach.

3. Third date if I didn't close on the first one, I'll do a dinner on a Friday or Saturday then back to my place, that usually seals the deal. If not, just keep on repeating within reason.

Then the Slow Fade.

Yeah, I'm beginning the slow fade. I would have given up 2 dates ago but this chick is super hot.

I met her on my route which I tend to do a lot lately. Colleagues warn against it, but its a great outlet, constantly going into business where hot chicks work at the front desk. Its never awkward for me when I see them almost daily, but it can be for them, but whatever. Haven't ran into a wackjob chick so far.

I've never put this much time in and been even a smidge interested. But for this chick I was until our last date when I had her on her bed and she had been acting all flirtatious and sexual, only to get her standard "you know were not having sex". Thats when I was just like, okay fuck this broad. Next.

You're hot, but I'm not waiting for marriage for your golden pussy.

 

[MickZagger]

If she's "kind of christiany", probably doesn't matter if 5 or 50. Especially if she is a virgin (or even if not, but waiting to do it again until marriage).
If that's not what you're looking for, I'd say that she may not be the one to spend your energy and money on. There are likely a lot of others who will give you what you're looking for for a steak and lobster.

Do people actually do that? I have female cousins who were raised pretty much evangelical and are constantly posting bible versus on facebook that had a kid out of wedlock. She's a couple years shy of 30. Plus she insists she's not a virgin. Maybe she just wants a long term relationship first. Which I'm not opposed to, but quit giving me blue balls. This is silly.

 

[EL PRESIDENTE]

I've never put this much time in and been even a smidge interested. But for this chick I was until our last date when I had her on her bed and she had been acting all flirtatious and sexual, only to get her standard "you know were not having sex". Thats when I was just like, okay fuck this broad. Next.

ummm....that's negotiable. Basically what you do is just tell her "yeah, that would be a terrible idea", then continue making out...then warm her up some more. You'll get there eventually, you just have to be strategic about it.

If you get frustrated when she says that, you for sure won't have sex. You just gotta stay cool.

 

[EL PRESIDENTE]

If she's "kind of christiany", probably doesn't matter if 5 or 50. Especially if she is a virgin (or even if not, but waiting to do it again until marriage).
If that's not what you're looking for, I'd say that she may not be the one to spend your energy and money on. There are likely a lot of others who will give you what you're looking for for a steak and lobster.

 

[MickZagger]

ummm....that's negotiable. Basically what you do is just tell her "yeah, that would be a terrible idea", then continue making out...then warm her up some more. You'll get there eventually, you just have to be strategic about it.

If you get frustrated when she says that, you for sure won't have sex. You just gotta stay cool.

I get where your coming from. I've never been one to be insistent upon shit like that. Then again, I've never been with a chick who promptly laid it out there like that every time things would get a little steamy.

I don't know, I guess the point of this thread was to get other peoples opinions of whether I should feel like a jackass or not for straight up being done with this chick who is seemingly into me, just because I'm not getting the nookie. Or should I care?

 

[BrianFromWA]

Do people actually do that? I have female cousins who were raised pretty much evangelical and are constantly posting bible versus on facebook that had a kid out of wedlock. She's a couple years shy of 30. Plus she insists she's not a virgin. Maybe she just wants a long term relationship first. Which I'm not opposed to, but quit giving me blue balls. This is silly.

My wife and I did. so did my previous girlfriend.
To each his own and no judgement at all, but it's probably less rare outside of Portland and LA.

 

[EL PRESIDENTE]

I get where your coming from. I've never been one to be insistent upon shit like that. Then again, I've never been with a chick who promptly laid it out there like that every time things would get a little steamy.

I don't know, I guess the point of this thread was to get other peoples opinions of whether I should feel like a jackass or not for straight up being done with this chick who is seemingly into me, just because I'm not getting the nookie. Or should I care?

did you try grabbing her by the pussy?

 

[MickZagger]

My wife and I did. so did my previous girlfriend.
To each his own and no judgement at all, but it's probably less rare outside of Portland and LA.

The areas where farm animals are more common

I kid, I kid.

 

[SlyPokerDog]

I get where your coming from. I've never been one to be insistent upon shit like that. Then again, I've never been with a chick who promptly laid it out there like that every time things would get a little steamy.

I don't know, I guess the point of this thread was to get other peoples opinions of whether I should feel like a jackass or not for straight up being done with this chick who is seemingly into me, just because I'm not getting the nookie. Or should I care?

Ask her to go for the night to the coast.

 

[MickZagger]

did you try grabbing her by the pussy?

I wonder if she thought I'd judge her for her giant Billy Bush.

 

[SlyPokerDog]

My wife and I did. so did my previous girlfriend.

You all 3 lost your virginity together?

Player!

 

[EL PRESIDENTE]

I mean will she let you rub her ass? Or if you rub her in the front, what would happen?

 

[MickZagger]

I mean will she let you rub her ass? Or if you rub her in the front, what would happen?

That usually the angle I take. Rub the ass, see if I can get a finger down the crease.

Gosh, I hope CrandC doesn't read this thread.




















































I'd be afraid she'd steal my strategies.

 

[EL PRESIDENTE]

You're certainly not being unreasonable.

 

[Further]

The women I'm with now was similar. I finally asked, saying something along the lines 'I'm into you, I'll be here when you are ready, but I'd love to know your thoughts about when it might be appropriate?' She said when a little longer and then that night we had sex. She just wanted to know I was willing to wait for her,

 

[Natebishop3]

You could like.... you know....... talk to her?

 

[SlyPokerDog]

Tell her to put the lotion in the basket.

 

[EL PRESIDENTE]

You could like.... you know....... talk to her?

Cuck

 

[Natebishop3]

Cuck

I'm a fan of not wasting my time. If she has a very different idea of intimacy than you, wouldn't you rather just discuss it like adults?

 

[theprunetang]

I would suggest just talking and bringing up your feelings. That's a good way to start. And yes, I've had this happen before. One time it was because she was on her period and didn't want to start things then. Women and men are really similar, but there are some not so subtle differences. Get used to that.

 

[MickZagger]

I'm a fan of not wasting my time. If she has a very different idea of intimacy than you, wouldn't you rather just discuss it like adults?

I've tried believe me. One time she said its something she doesn't like to talk about. The other time she changed the subject.

I think she just liked being out and about, is a prude and sexual contact for her at this point is awkward and she doesn't know how to go about it. If you look at her facebook you would think were bf and gf. I've brought this girl roses, I pulled out everything in my bags of tricks. I know its not me, I haven't had problems in the past. I tried, oh well. I'ma grown man, sex is kind of important at this point in my life. Perhaps she look at church for her outlet to meet men. Her mom really liked me too.....

















































maybe I should go after her instead.

 

[EL PRESIDENTE]

I'm a fan of not wasting my time. If she has a very different idea of intimacy than you, wouldn't you rather just discuss it like adults?

Not really. Gotta learn Jedi mind tricks.

That's how it is out there now in the hook up culture.

 

[EL PRESIDENTE]

I've tried believe me. One time she said its something she doesn't like to talk about. The other time she changed the subject.

I think she just liked being out and about, is a prude and sexual contact for her at this point is awkward and she doesn't know how to go about it. If you look at her facebook you would think were bf and gf. I've brought this girl roses, I pulled out everything in my bags of tricks. I know its not me, I haven't had problems in the past. I tried, oh well. I'ma grown man, sex is kind of important at this point in my life. Perhaps she look at church for her outlet to meet men. Her mom really liked me too.....

maybe I should go after her instead.

She'll fuck the edgy bartender who will treat her like shit.

 

[MickZagger]

She'll fuck the edgy bartender who will treat her like shit.

lol.

anal

 

[theprunetang]

I've tried believe me. One time she said its something she doesn't like to talk about. The other time she changed the subject.

I think she just liked being out and about, is a prude and sexual contact for her at this point is awkward and she doesn't know how to go about it. If you look at her facebook you would think were bf and gf. I've brought this girl roses, I pulled out everything in my bags of tricks. I know its not me, I haven't had problems in the past. I tried, oh well. I'ma grown man, sex is kind of important at this point in my life. Perhaps she look at church for her outlet to meet men. Her mom really liked me too.....

















































maybe I should go after her instead.

Hold on for a little while longer. Sometimes people just need time. My longest lasting girlfriend of 3 years took about a year of effort. She didn't want to rush into things after years of going from boyfriend to boyfriend. I understood that and took it easy for a while until SHE made it known that it was ok. That is the key.

 

[MickZagger]

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Hold on for a little while longer. Sometimes people just need time. My longest lasting girlfriend of 3 years took about a year of effort. She didn't want to rush into things after years of going from boyfriend to boyfriend. I understood that and took it easy for a while until SHE made it known that it was ok. That is the key.

Yeah maybe. But, how much longer do you do this until I convince myself I'm the problem. Were adults lets fuck! It feels good!